MattFloyd Posted March 9, 2018 Share Posted March 9, 2018 I am in a tough spot here, I made the choice to dip my pen in company ink...date my coworker. I usually would refrain from doing so but everything about her pulled me to her. We had a great relationship for 4months.. I seen her in her worst times and in her best times. She has very bad anxiety from time to time where basically her day goes to ruin. Skipping to the break up, it hit me out of the blue. She just said "We need to talk". Yup.. dun dun dun.... lol. Anyways she basically said, "I have so much going on in my life right now..plus my anxiety.. the stress of a relationship is just to much for me right now I need to work on myself and fix my anxiety..". I tried explaining to her, that I am all for her trying to better herself and I am here for her if she needs me, and if this journey gets rough in her trying to address her issues.... I will support her! that is what I believe a relationship is about...just being there for one another. I did not beg or plead, I avoided this route cause my last relationship it was a mess, plus my research and experience is to never do this.. it will just make things worse. Anyways back to what I was saying she stuck to her guns and I said.. its a shame... I really thought this could of been something so much more.. and that you're giving up on this with no effort, but none the less... do what you have to do, and I left. Now to us working together.. basically I been giving her space.. only talking to her when I need to... (its hard considering we bump into each other or see each other literally 20+ times a day). She began to get bitter for some reason like I did something to hurt her but I did no such thing.. I just need a bit of time to think... and seeing her was rough but I kept my head on my shoulders and left her be as did she but in a more bitter form. Basically this form is her pretended I wasn't there...laughing with coworkers ext. Fast forward two days... she removes me off all social media.. and at work.. just seems oh so much more bitter towards me.. this whole time after the break up I been No-Contact or in my case Limited-Contact... not so much to get her back but to give us both space and to reflect on this whole thing and maybe if I have ...to just move on.. but its just a shame... I'm a fighter for relationships! I work on problems.. noone seems to do this anymore. Anywaaaaaaaays what should I do guys... Any approach to salvage this relationship? or should I just keep on this game of ignoring one another at work and try and move on with are lives... a bad thought for me but I can learn to deal with it... I hope. Link to comment
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