halfinhalfout Posted December 12, 2017 Share Posted December 12, 2017 My ex and I disagree about why we broke up. He broke up with me. He thinks it's a compatibility issue but from my perspective it was a lack of communication that we could work out and possibly get back together. If not now then in a few months or even further down the road. Now he wants to be friends; as in get coffee, hang out with our mutual friends at his apartment, etc. He was overly friendly with me at a party recently and wants to get coffee again soon so I know he really, really wants to be my friend. I have a few options: 1. Don't tell him why I disagree with the breakup. Go no contact to get over my remaining feelings for him. Let it all go. 2. Don't tell him why I disagree with the breakup. Try to be his friend. Continue moving on but keep the peace between us. 3. Tell him why I disagree with the breakup and then go no contact. 4. Tell him why I disagree with the breakup and try to be his friend. I KIND OF told him I disagree but was emotional in the moment so I just cried and apologized repeatedly, not fully knowing why I was apologizing. It took me a couple days to process what he said and my opinion on it. I still have feelings for him. But maybe I can just stuff my feelings until they go away. He admitted that's what he's doing - he said: "I have lingering feelings but I'm not nurturing them" is what he said. He also said multiple times that he does not want to get back together at all. Many benefits to staying friends, including that we care about each other and have a lot in common, we share all the same friends, we dated for a year and I was very, very attached to his dog who I'd like to still see from time to time, he hosts a lot of fun events weekly and monthly. How do I make this decision? THANK YOU FOR READING AND REPLYING Link to comment
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