Catullus8 Posted November 22, 2017 Share Posted November 22, 2017 Hey everyone, So when I first got to uni last year I quickly befriended this girl, who I had a bit of a crush on. It was standard beginning of uni stuff and we quickly became really good friends and actually got a job together in a café. We never got a chance to date before she got back together with her long-term boyfriend from home (who also goes to the same uni). Since then I suppressed my feelings and my friendship with both of them developed to the point that I could probably consider myself friends with her bf too (he’s nice enough but a bit bland), but then 3 months ago everything started to bubble up. I hated the feelings because they were pointless and I knew I would almost certainly never be with her, so I tried to deal with them myself. When this didn’t work I confronted her about my feelings and she was incredibly understanding and lovely about the whole thing. We had a rocky couple of days at the end of which she admitted that she saw me as her best friend, which I reciprocated regardless of feelings, and we’re now closer than ever and have decided we’re going to live together next year in a flat of 6 (not with the bf but more because he couldn’t than they didn’t want to). Now I want more than anything to move on. I can’t date other people without comparing them to her, because objectively speaking she is exactly the kind of person I want to be with. But there’s no point in holding out for someone in a tried and tested relationship, but I have no idea how to. Link to comment
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