DanAbnormal Posted September 6, 2017 Share Posted September 6, 2017 I've been dating my colleague for two months. She only left a long term relationship in April, so we both said that we would take things slowly and not rush into anything serious. It was mostly a physical relationship at first but it's become more than that and we both like each other a lot. In her words she likes me a lot more than she expected to and she 'can't find anything wrong with me'. We've spent a lot of time together lately and even though it's early I was feeling very positive about the potential of this relationship. However, over the last week her behavior has changed somewhat and for the past few days she's been more distant with me. Recently she suggested the idea of going on a short vacation somewhere together, but last week she changed her mind suddenly and now isn't sure about it. She's not messaging me as much as she was and her messages seem shorter and more blunt. We usually meet twice a week but this week she doesnt have time to see me. She does want to see me at the weekend though. She's been very busy with her job this week which I understand and appreciate but I can't help but feel she's now feeling unsure of where this relationship is heading. We work in the creative sector and her job ends early next year. She mentioned she would be looking for jobs soon and would apply to jobs anywhere, not just in our area. She also mentioned she's still having some issues from her ex. A couple of weeks ago she told me she was 'crazy about me' then stopped herself from saying more in case 'it freaked me out'. I'm wondering if she's taken a step back and realised this is too much for her right now and maybe she's freaking out over having feelings for me. She has said before that she likes me 'too much' and that scared her. but I don't know if I should be prepared for that or if i'm reading into things too much. I left a long term relationship a year ago which was very painful and I don't know if that experience is altering the way I'm seeing things in this current relationship. I feel that maybe I'm expecting things to go badly because my last relationship ended in such an awful painful way. Any advice on how to deal with this would be very much appreciated. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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