Tomthumb88 Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 So the 30 plus days of NC was broken by a skype call from my ex's daughter. I hadn't spoken to her in months so I couldn't refuse and it was nice to see and hear her. After that I exchanged texts with my ex for a bit.. it's impossible not to read into text in these situations but i guess it was nuteral for the most part. However the conversation led to one of the issues we had and I apologized to which she replied thanks for the apology but it doesn't matter at this point. I then ended the conversation. Maybe I'm reading too much into that? Hard to understand with only text. Link to comment
Tomthumb88 Posted July 19, 2017 Author Share Posted July 19, 2017 I guess my question is.. what do I do next? I'd like to rekindle things but im wary of further rejection. she clearly has some feelings or she would just let me disappear. This is the third or fourth month in a row that NC she broke NC but I'd like to start moving something forward. Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 She accepted your apology, she didnt appear to give you any hope from what you wrote here. What makes you think she may be interested in you again? Link to comment
Tomthumb88 Posted July 19, 2017 Author Share Posted July 19, 2017 She had her daughter contact me and continues to make contact... like I said, the conversation was just that. Link to comment
Tomthumb88 Posted July 19, 2017 Author Share Posted July 19, 2017 Last month I was adamant that being "friends" wasn't in the cards and she insisted there was no one else and she wasn't looking for anyone else. But then things seemed to devolve again so I went NC again Link to comment
Tomthumb88 Posted July 19, 2017 Author Share Posted July 19, 2017 Also.. the event I apologized for was over a year ago, it's very possible that's what she was referring to. It's hard not too read into text. Link to comment
misterjister Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Tomthumb If it was me I'd text if you could have a quick chat on the phone. If she agrees then you can ask her straight out whatevers bothering you. If she says no then you also get an answer. It has to be better than sitting there racking your brains and overanalysing? Link to comment
Tomthumb88 Posted July 19, 2017 Author Share Posted July 19, 2017 That's what happened last month basicly. I guess I'm just confused why she returns monthly. She's the one blocking the attempt but when I try to disappear she returns but doesn't follow through. Link to comment
misterjister Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Maybe she just likes to get you out the toybox to have a play with now and then? Or maybe she feels duty bound to check that you're ok? Only she can answer why she does what she does and even then what she says isn't guaranteed to be the truth - but short of administering her with some Truth Serum and and hooking her to a lie detector I think that's the best you can hope for i'm afraid. I'm not qualified to give advice though Tom and i'm here for the similar reasons as you. Whether right or wrong all I can say is what I think i'd do and that would be to ask her. You aren't going to get your answers by second guessing or from anybody else who doesnt know you both (like me). It has to come from her. Link to comment
Careerchoice Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 If you have any doubts as to her true intentions, you should ask her straight out: "Do you want to get back together with me?" Link to comment
Tomthumb88 Posted July 19, 2017 Author Share Posted July 19, 2017 Tried all that last month... I guess I'll not initiate contact and continue living my life as I have been. Link to comment
Tomthumb88 Posted July 20, 2017 Author Share Posted July 20, 2017 Unless anyone has any better ideas... Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 Tried all that last month... I guess I'll not initiate contact and continue living my life as I have been. And what was her response? It could really just be that her daughter asks to talk to you and she concedes. How old is the daughter? Link to comment
Tomthumb88 Posted July 20, 2017 Author Share Posted July 20, 2017 She said she couldn't handle a relationship but that she wasn't seeing anyone and that she would get off the dating apps. But things went right back to where they had been so I went nc. And it is possible.. she's 4 and liked to complain about me but we usually got along very well. She also has "liked" a few things which hadn't happened in a long time. Link to comment
Tomthumb88 Posted July 20, 2017 Author Share Posted July 20, 2017 The NC was to let me heal and to try to move on and not a ploy to get her back. I'd like to try again because I think we had something really special but I'm not looking to bang my heart against a wall anymore. Link to comment
Tomthumb88 Posted July 22, 2017 Author Share Posted July 22, 2017 I'm thinking I'll ask the two of them to do something if she contacts me again.. not the best method of advancing anything romantic though Link to comment
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