SpeakerMemory Posted July 6, 2017 Share Posted July 6, 2017 Sorry for that the post may be a little long but there is a lot of things that play into this situation. The issue revolves around my sister and her current relationship with her family. But her real point of contention is focused on my mom. The problem with my mom is that she was a very emotionally unavailable person. She was not big on physical or emotional affection. She was very distant and the distance was furthered more with her abuse of pain killers. As I was gearing up to graduate highschool my Mom and Dad had a falling out and had a pretty messy divorce. I feel like me, my brother and my sister have suffered a bit of emotional trauma as a result of this. My Mom went on to get re-married and my Dad has had a girlfriend for many years since then. After the divorce my Mom moved in with her parents for a bit and my sister was with her during this time. Then my Mom met the guy who she would eventually marry and they moved in with him. Things were shaping up at this point yet still a bit rocky. But the big major turn is when my sister was approached by this recruiter for selling magazines. She was very infatuated with the idea as well as the person that approached her. My whole family tried to change her mind on this because it seemed like a really bad idea but my sister was dead set on this and she ended up leaving with him. She began dating this guy and going to different states to sell magazines but as we had all predicted it was a total disaster and my dad had to buy her and her boyfriend a bus ticket back home. At this time she wouldn't go anywhere without her BF so my Mom and her husband let them live with them. And soon we would all realize what an abusive and sociopathic pile of human trash this guy was. He pretty much had my sister brainwashed into thinking her family all hated her and that she was worthless. We all hated this guy and it caused much tension between the family. He had no respect for my Mom and her husband or any of my sister's family. But my sister would not leave his side so eventually he was forced out and him and my sister got another place to live. As you can imagine things got worse but it basically ends with him leaving and my sister finally realizing how bad he was for her. It can't remember where she went after this but she would shorty rekindle a relationship with a guy that she had dated before. This guy has always cared for her quite a bit and even tried to stay in contact with her while she was dating that terrible guy. She would pretty immediately move in with this guy and it seemed like things were looking up for her. I have known this guy for a while now and I really like him. He is a very nice guy and he cares very much for my sister. I would go over to their place and we would all hang out and it was generally a very good time. She is still currently living with him but I will get back to that shortly. Drugs play a big role in my sisters life. She has been smoking marijuana very regularly since highschool. It's very clear that it is an addiction because she uses it to band aid her mental issues, but I believe that it is only making it worse. She has pretty much lost every job she has had due to her attitude problem and I feel like it is a result of her drug problems. But on top of that she has done much harder drugs and recently has tried to get help for an addiction to ecstasy. Now back to her living with this current boyfriend. He also has a huge dependency on marijuana as well. When I would go over to hang out they would be smoking constantly. And this has been going on for about 2 years now. Now to get into the current situation. My sister won't make contact with any family members now. We try to contact her but she will avoid every call or text that we send. The last time I really know is that she told me she was going to get treatment for her addictions but about a week later she had dropped out of treatment for not getting what she wanted out of it. My Mom and Dad always ask me if I have heard from her because they try constantly to get a hold of her with no success. But I can't get a hold of her either so I can't put their minds at ease. My Mom has resorted to contacting my sister's boyfriend at work just so they can get a handle on the situation. When my sister caught wind that they were contacting him she exploded on my mom with a text about how she wants nothing to do with her and how she was a terrible mother and so on. And that's about the gist of it. I'm just at a loss of what to do or even say. I'm getting to the point where I feel like I just need to forget about my sister for the time being because it's too stressful of a situation and I have my own life to live. I want to see my sister seek help but I can't get a hold of her so it just seems futile at this point. Her issues range from depression and anxiety and PTSD to having a major marijuana dependency, and most likely harder drugs but I'm not certain of that. She has also made attempts on her life before so I always fear she may try again one of these days. She hates my Mom and she is isolating herself from her entire family. If you took the time to read this I thank you very deeply. Any advice would be great because I just have no idea what I can even do at this point. Link to comment
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