Birdfish09 Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 My husband and I have been together 8 years, married for almost 3. We're very happy together. But something happened 2 months before we got married, and I'm still a bit hurt. A new girl had started working with him. He "hit it off" with her right away as friends. He eventually started seeing qualities in her that he wished I had. He grew to resent me. I confronted him about the strange distance that he seemed to be putting between us. He admitted he started doubting our relationship when this girl started working with him. Nothing physical ever happened. He essentially had an emotional affair, but he denies even that. According to him he just saw things he liked in her, wished I had them, then admitted to growing resentful towards me for being...me. I tried to call off the wedding, but he snapped and came right back to me emotionally. After a lot of talking, crying, and reasoning, we managed to get through it, got married, and are happy. He genuinely doesn't give me reason to worry. However, he still works with the girl. He also has to go on many business trips with her, and always to beautiful, exotic locations/islands due to the nature of their work. This hurts me even though I know he is 100% back to being invested in me and only me. I can't help but feel jealous and even hateful towards this girl, as if she doesn't even deserve the pleasure of his friendship. I also become insecure when other women enter his life through work, which is something I had never experienced in my relationship with him before. In fact, the lack of jealousy and insecurities I had before this is what set this relationship apart from all my others; I was confident about who I was for the first time in my life. Any thoughts or guidance would help. This really sucks. Link to comment
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