WombatShadow Posted June 4, 2017 Share Posted June 4, 2017 I've posted a couple times about my friend "T" who is in an...interesting relationship. When our little group first met her, she supposedly loved all of us, but that quickly turned into her hating me because I'm a single woman (my other two friends are now referring to me as the Vagina Monster). Then she began to hate my ex because "he's an ". She still liked my other friend, J, until he didn't respond favorably to an invitation to dinner. Now she hates him too, and we haven't gotten to see T for almost two months now. Every time we try to make plans he's either working or seeing his girlfriend...who he sees nearly every day, sometimes multiple times a day, despite them not living together. It's not just our group, either; I ran into T's oldest friend a couple of weeks ago, and he told me that he hasn't seen him in forever either because T's girlfriend thinks he's a "bad influence" (no drinking, smoking, or drugs, he's married, and he has a full-time job...yes, he's clearly a terrible influence). His girlfriend has cut T off from everyone, and if they aren't together she's constantly texting him (she threw a fit when we did see him a little under two months back because he didn't respond to her text within a literal minute). I am hosting a small get-together next weekend, and so far T hasn't responded to my invitation (which was through our group chat). My ex ended up contacting T to see if he can come, and predictably he can't. This time, it's because his girlfriend will be off work too early for him to make it into my town and back to her house OR she won't be working and so they'll be hanging out (I guess her schedule isn't quite finished). My ex even invited T's girlfriend to come along, but T isn't sure she'll be interested. If T just wasn't contacting us, we'd all cut ties with him and move on until he's free of his own personal Vagina Monster. The thing is, he's still highly active in our group chat and he has texted both my ex and J that he really misses hanging out with them as individuals and our group as a whole. He doesn't want us to leave him out and feels really bad when we get together without him. We also all miss him, and our "group chemistry" is completely off without him. This all boils down to the following: I'm thinking of personally inviting his girlfriend, who I am Facebook friends with. Would that make things worse or is this an opportunity to try and mend the bridges that she has so thoroughly attempted to burn? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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