marilyn89 Posted April 25, 2017 Share Posted April 25, 2017 ok so me and my partner have been together for nearly 15months and its amazing, we are so happy together that 6 months into our relationship i decided to move in with him, well i say decided, it was more like i stayed over at his one week and just never left lol. he is a full time dad to a 7 year old boy who is completely happy with me living with them (otherwise i wouldn't be there) we have some awesome times together. The problem is his family, for the first 6 months of us dating we had the usual family 'get to know you' get togethers', family meals e.c.t. it was nice i liked that, not too invading on our privacy, got to know them on my own terms, but since i moved in its been an absolute nightmare! before i moved in i would be at his house literally every other night and weekend if we werent working late or had other plans and his family hardly ever came over, but now they are here ALL the time and i cant cope, dont get me wrong they are lovely people, but they have no respect for our privacy, at all!. they just turn up at all hours of the day regardless of what we might be doing or have planned, no call or txt to say hey you free, or hi, is it ok if we call for a cuppa, nope just waltz straight through door whatever the hour or day. Sunday morning just got up sat in my skimpys and ill have them piling through the door, and its never just one person they have to make it an annual get together, mum, dad, sister, cousin, nieces, nephews, etc, everyone come along to so and so's house for breakfast! theyl come round after work and its like oh your home for 6, ill turn up at 6.01, dont even get chance to take my shoes off. i could deal with it if they just 'called in' but half the time i have them on my sofa while 10 o clock at night, no amount of yawns or hints about having to get up for work at half 5 in the morning seems to shift them, if me and my partner have plans to go out for the day or a meal or night out or something and they turn up its like oh sounds brill, wel come with you! aaarggghh, feel like me and my boyfriend never get a minute together. and they treat me like i should be with them and my boyfriend for EVERYTHING they do together too, if his mum cooks tea i am expected to be there, calling to drop off a card or gift-i have to be there, picks up some milk or something for his mum- yep i have to go drop it off with him! cant say no to anything regarding his family cos all ill get is 'where is she??? why isnt she here?? like me and my boyfriend should be joint at the hip! its seriously tearing us apart cos i'm starting to resent spending any time with them at all and my boyfriend cant understand why ive started to say no to doing stuff with them, that its me that's in the wrong and i should want to spend time with them! really, am i that bad a person for wanting to spent one measley day with my boyfriend, just me and him, on our own! Link to comment
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.