Ophelia13 Posted April 16, 2017 Share Posted April 16, 2017 I am in a committed relationship with the love of my life. We've only been together for a little over two months, but i guess we're both the type of people who rush into relationships quickly and it just happened to work out right this time. Either that, or we're soulmates! xD I have never truly felt this much love for anyone I'd dated in the past, nor have I ever felt so comfortable and free to be myself. The only problem is that as comfortable as I am around him, I have a hard time getting myself to talk to him about serious matters. From analyzing my reactions to and behaviors in certain situations, I've realized I may have trust and abandonment issues as a result of things I went through as a child. I think he needs to know about this, because sometimes he says or does things which aren't meant to be hurtful, but which upset me. As an example, Some weeks ago, we were in bed, and after I fell asleep, for some reason he got up and went to sleep in the other room. When I woke up in the middle of the night and realized he wasn't next to me, I first assumed that he was probably using the bathroom or getting a glass of water or something. But then I waited and he didn't come back. So I looked for him and found him sleeping in the other room. I asked him why he was there but he didn't answer me, he just got up, kissed me, and walked with me back to the bedroom. I couldn't stop crying until I fell asleep again, because it heightened my anxiety and made me feel irrationally insecure, like he didn't want to be around me. I tried to be quiet, but he still noticed me crying and held me close to him, asking what was wrong. I didn't tell him, because I didn't want him to feel guilty, or think that I was trying to blackmail him. I know that I can't go on like this while still keeping our relationship healthy, and I know that if something he does upsets me, I need to talk to him about it, especially if it's because of underlying psychological problems that I might have. But I have no idea what to say, or how to even bring it up. I'm afraid I might come across as excessively needy, or self-pitying, and I really don't want to risk losing him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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