EndlessNemesis Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 I had a short term relationship (3 months) with a girl I was really into. I loved her and wanted to be with her all the time, I travelled to see her twice a week and made an effort to meet her friends and family too. I don't have a great deal of experience in relationships (one relationship of four years which ended six years ago). I suppose I didn't really know what I was doing, I was eager to please her and because she seemed happy for the first couple of months I assumed I was doing everything right. But for the last month of the relationship it seemed obvious that she wasn't happy anymore, I couldn't figure out what was going wrong. She told me that it was nothing I had done wrong but I knew it must have been... Eventually the relationship ended because she had no interest in spending time with me anymore (was too busy, made excuses then spent time with her friends instead). I was devastated as I never really got an explanation of what I had done wrong, just that she "wasn't feeling it" anymore. After 6 weeks of turning it over and over in my mind, I have come to recognise all of the things I must have done wrong... maybe I was a bit clingy, not as much "fun" as her other friends, not experienced enough or adventurous in bed? She never communicated to me that any of these things were a problem, she only told me that I hadn't done anything wrong. I think I became complacent because she seemed so happy to begin with, so I was oblivious to my failings... If I had recognised these things at the time I could have done something about it, but now it's too late - she is gone and I only have myself to blame. I know all I can do is to learn from my mistakes and be more aware next time but I still feel sad and regretful every day knowing that I blew it with this girl. If I had known what I was doing wrong then I could have fixed it. It's hard losing someone you love and realising in hindsight that you *could* have done something to keep them. Link to comment
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