Saw ex. Setback

[heartbroken3]

After a bit of communication to get stuff this week, I saw my ex walking today at lunch. It's nice out and She was all done up with a girlfriend. Yoga gear etc. Sucked to see.

[BlarneyStone]

Are you looking for advice on something in particular? How long have you been apart.

[heartbroken3]

Are you looking for advice on something in particular? How long have you been apart.

 

Together two years. Broken up 3 months. I guess just how to get past seeing them.

[BlarneyStone]

Don't go to the same places she frequents. Three months isn't very long. So getting past "seeing" them shouldn't be in the equation. You shouldn't be seeing her at all. You shouldn't be talking to her at all either.

[Wiseman2]

Each time that happens it will not be as bad as this time. You've come over the worst hurdle.

[adviceplease2]

Yeah, I run into mine at least once a week because of kids in school. I've done my best to make myself Vulcan emotionally so I'm not constantly set back. But, its difficult isn't it. Just seeing her makes you dwell....I know all too well. Mine broke up with me about 3-4 months ago and I've run into often. If you are able to avoid seeing your ex, do it. I'm not able to avoid it, I've had a rough time.

[BlarneyStone]

Each time that happens it will not be as bad as this time. You've come over the worst hurdle.

 

Funny, if it happens frequently it'll just make it worse. Especially if he is clinging to some kind of hope for recon. If he just goes no contact he will be fine in time.

[BlarneyStone]

Yeah, I run into mine at least once a week because of kids in school. I've done my best to make myself Vulcan emotionally so I'm not constantly set back. But, its difficult isn't it. Just seeing her makes you dwell....I know all too well. Mine broke up with me about 3-4 months ago and I've run into often. If you are able to avoid seeing your ex, do it. I'm not able to avoid it, I've had a rough time.

 

Mine broke up with me about five months ago and I went NC. Saw her a couple weeks ago for the first time since we were together. Same ex that prompted me to join this site. Smiled and waved, otherwise didn't bat a lash and didn't really care.

 

Having kids in the mix doesn't really give you the option but yea, go NC!

[heartbroken3]

Thanks all. I'm a firm believer in no contact. There's been 3 reasons for contact since the split 1. Taxes 2. Getting my passport 3. Getting the last of my stuff. There's no more reasons. I would love for her to come back but she feels it isn't the right relationship for her. Do I HOPE she'll come back, yes. Do I think and believe she'll come back, not really.

[adviceplease2]

Yeah, mine broke up with me at the end of her first trimester...with my baby...and I run into her at the school all the time. Hell, we were both on a field trip last week...with her glowing and happy about the pregnancy. We've been NC, outside of running into each other or her texting about a test at the doctor for the baby....because we're both late 30's. So, its not really so easy for me. But I'm about where heartbroken3 is...I'd love for us to get back together, but don't expect it.

 

Good luck heartbroken3.

[overthemoon86]

I only ran into my ex once...and it was about 3 months after the breakup. It stopped me dead in my tracks! Everyone is right, 3 months is really short amount of time after a break up. You are going to need more time to heal, but I promise it gets better.

[heartbroken3]

Good luck adviceplease

[SooSad33]

Having trouble here too.. as he lives across the road But I do whatever possible to NOT run into him. Dont let him see me, etc,

When unable to avoid each other, makes things (healing) that much harder cause it takes a bit longer.

3 months here, too.

[Collegeguy2]

Almost 2 months NC for me, I have yet to run into my ex.

 

I do live about 5 miles away from her and there is a possibility to run into each other but I've stayed out of the way. I'm not ready to see her, the first time we broke up (last year... This is our second break up) I would see her at the gym occasionally but now I stay away and go to a different one even if my friends still go to the one she goes to.