should i tell him personally

[plexie]

I recently started dating the ex of a teammate of mine (we play football) they were together for 2 years and are broken up for about 1 year now. Both of them moved on now she 's really in love with me and i like her alot aswell and we are a couple atm. And he is having fun with other girls aswell . my question is should i still inform him about me and his ex being a couple because i'm not sure if he would care alot, but i think if i don't have a chat with him about it it could create some tension between us which could be avoided by just having a 5 min conversation. also i'm not sure what i could tell him, because "yo i'm seeing your ex, are you ok with it?" seems so meh ...

 

basicly i dunno which option is more respectfull towards him. Either let him find out by seeing us together or talking to him b4hand.

[missmarple]

Talk to him. If he finds out on his own, it will be worse. If they had been together for 2 years, I don't think he'll be very happy Are you friends with him or just teammates?

[plexie]

we get allong allright not like best friends but not just teammates

[plexie]

maybe i should add that he probably already knows that me and her have been talking since alot of our shared friends have seen us talk at party's and stuff, in the beginning i told her i wasn't interested in her and stuff because she was his ex but i really grew to like her over time but most effort came from her part .

[DoF]

Not at all, you only do this to REAL/CLOSE friends....not some guy you played sports with.

[j.man]

Only reason it'd be worth bringing up is if you're planning to bring her around the house.