Ex Girlfriend wants a relationship again

[BarneyStinson]

My ex girlfriend of a long distance relationship lasting just over a year, sent me a text last night. She asked for us to get back together.

 

 

She left pretty nastily and said she found someone else and acted so immature and had been for about a month that I really didn't understand who she was anymore. It was like she moved to another city and her whole personality changed too. Maybe to try to fit in with friends (which she has also had sex with after alcohol and taking drugs) If I got back together with her then I couldn't trust because while we were in a relationship she did that with her friends and changed her pictures on facebook to some sexual pictures (her pulling up her top and stuff) and she wanted to talk more with her friends than with me and she wanted to spend christmas and new year with them.

 

She got back together before but then told me that it was just because she was bored.

 

 

I know she's been having breakdowns now and then but honestly, I don't want to be sucked back into something that is toxic and just to cure her boredom so I need to know it is 100% real (she said that she want's it properly this time).

 

I do feel something for her but I want to know why she wants a relationship now and why she thinks I should trust her considering all that she has done. But maybe years from now I might look back and wish that I talked to her. I really don't know.

 

What do you think I should do?

[mhowe]

She is likely still bored or had a falling out with her new crowd.

[Blue_Skirt]

I know she's been having breakdowns now and then but honestly, I don't want to be sucked back into something that is toxic and just to cure her boredom so I need to know it is 100% real (she said that she want's it properly this time).

You have given the answer yourself. You don’t want something toxic, so don’t get back together with her. If she is bored, well too bad for her, but you are not her entertainer.

[saluk]

I think you will regret getting back on the crazy train a lot more than you will watching it pass by the station.

[HeartGoesOn]

Unless you want the title of "fall back guy" where she comes and goes at her own leisure, I'd pass on this in a heartbeat.

[DancingFool]

Pass and block her number so you don't have to deal with this going forward.

 

She is still the same girl. Things didn't pan out, she is bored, she knows she can yank your chain and you'll come running to entertain her until she finds something or someone better to do....as you have in the past. This is just rinse repeat. It's on you to find your spine, say no thanks, and walk away.