Shady_Forever Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 I been with a girl for over year and a half now. When it comes to sex... surely its great! But i want more. I cant get her to do oral for nothing. She says its to big, or its nasty. Some excuse. How is there ways to get a girl to enjoy giving oral sex? Link to comment
volution Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 It's her choice... if she doesn't like it, then you'll just have to live with it. Try talking to her about it - ask her, honestly, why she doesn't like to do it. Tell her your feelings.... Oral sex isn't the be all and end all of a relationship! I been with a girl for over year and a half now. When it comes to sex... surely its great! But i want more. I cant get her to do oral for nothing. She says its to big, or its nasty. Some excuse. How is there ways to get a girl to enjoy giving oral sex? Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 Instead of asking her about oral sex what you need to do is discuss the issue and find out why she thinks its nasty or why its too big. Its important to look at her sexual history to see why she has these thoughts about oral sex. This approach is better than asking for it cuz otherwise she is gonna feel pressured and somepeople dont respond well to that. A good method to use is to talk about fantasies, but you need her to be comfortable enough to be completely honest with you, then you ask her if there are any activities that she hasnt done or that she would like to try with you. This approach comes off better because you are indirectly asking for it but it doesnt seem obvious. My experience has been that most females who have limited or no involvment in giving oral sex tend to be curious about it. What you are doing is using this curiosity to further your goal. Link to comment
esboogie143 Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 Just tell her to relax. First of all make u sure u smell really good down there. Be gently and just easily place it on her tongue. Im telling you that if ur smellin' right she will not only tast it but deep throat it!!lololololol Sorry for being sooo out there but its the truth! Link to comment
RayKay Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 No its not at all bad, I LOVE giving my man oral sex, I love his reaction, and well, I love getting to be close to him...he's sexy and I love being intimate with him and pleasuring him. And he's big...so not getting that "too big" thing since you don't need to swallow the darn thing! As for nasty...well, assuming you keep up with good hygiene, that might be more of a mental block on her side than anything else. If you are having sex, I think you ought to be able to also communicate openly about sex with your partner. So talk to her. Ask her what her feelings are about it and why she has that trepidation. See if you do it in the shower it would make a difference. Cover yourself in whipped cream and get her to lick, seeing you enjoying it might get her started. Do you give HER oral? How does she feel about that if you do, or don't? It's only fair that you can reciprocate if you ask for it. Either she has some mental blocks to it, or does not want to do it. Sometimes when we are not "into" out partner, oral is not something we care to do as much as we become more selfish. Maybe she was brought up thinking sex is dirty, etc. So you REALLY need to have an open talk about it. Link to comment
San123 Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 make sure u give her oral too... i know some guys who expect it done to them... but then they refuse to give their g/f oral! Link to comment
Jaela Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 I dont view anything wrong with oral at all. I love the intimacy, making my man moan and groan, feeling him in that way, and the ultimate feeling of satisfying him is overwhelming for me, not to mention a HUGE turn on. Link to comment
arwen Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 Hm, I think there surely are girls who really, really dislike giving oral sex to a man. Have you tried to like 'clean' up the area a bit for her sake? I really enjoy giving head , however, It needs to been clean and there need not to be to many hairs around It. When being very careful you could try to shave/trim the area a bit. You can also have a lot of fun experimenting with whipped cream or liquid chocolate. I can not believe that I am writing this. Please never hold it against me, will you guys! Ilse. Link to comment
Jaela Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 Aww, it's ok Ilse, *hugs* Oral for me is another form of expressing my love or affection to someone. In a completely erotic way, of course. Link to comment
esboogie143 Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 its all good baby...its all good!!!! thats what life ia ll about! Link to comment
Beec Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 I've dated quite a few women who said they wanted to give me a blowjob, but only two who could ever carry it to its conclusion. Why? Because those were the only two who seemed to want it, and were not just doing it to "make me feel good." If she really does not enjoy it, you are not either, IMO. If you want it, try to make her want it too. If it is not so important, enjoy what you have. Link to comment
tanned_production Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 If she doesnt want too.... dont force it. maybe try telling her thatyou really want her to try it, and maybe she'll like it. If she doesnt like if after, then don't force her to try it again. It's up to her... oral sex is not the key to a relationship Just leave it up to her. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 as a previous poster said, if she does do it because she's pressured and just wants to make you shut up or be happy then you will not enjoy it. So DONT force her, if she doens't want to do it then don't keep on and on about it some girls enjoy it and some don't I personally don't really care to go down on a guy so if my bf pushes the issue he doesn't get ANYTHING! Just back off of her for awhile and maybe eventually she'll feel comfortable enough to atleast try it. _Mythical-Suicide_ Link to comment
Zimetra Posted February 18, 2005 Share Posted February 18, 2005 Do you give HER oral? How does she feel about that if you do, or don't? It's only fair that you can reciprocate if you ask for it. Give HER really good oral sex and she will reward you... Link to comment
CrystalDawn Posted February 19, 2005 Share Posted February 19, 2005 If she doesn't want to there isn't anything you can really do forceing her into it will just make it worse. Talk to her to find out why she doesn't want to. It could be several diffrent things or it could be that she just doesn't care for it or it might have something to do with her past. Link to comment
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