emzygirl Posted August 19, 2015 Share Posted August 19, 2015 me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months now. We got together when he came over to france (where I live) and we have been together ever since. The only problem is that he lives in the Uk. I go over when I can get the time off and when I went over this time I found some text messages on his phone.. He was meeting up with "a sex worker" for sex. I don't know if anyone has been cheated on but when I found out I thought I was going to collapse, I was planning on not telling him that I knew to see if he'd tell me but I couldn't keep it to myself. When I finally calmed down he told me that he did because he likes really rough sex and he wanted to try it with me but he was too scared of hurting me and of me feeling ashamed of him. I don't really know what to do... Has anyone experienced a similar situation ? Can anyone give me advice ? Thank you Link to comment
Man with Dog Posted August 19, 2015 Share Posted August 19, 2015 Sorry, I think he's talking a lot of . He's just making excuses for cheating. It might be because of the distance that he misses sex but a cheat is a cheat. Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted August 19, 2015 Share Posted August 19, 2015 He's cheating and trying to turn this around into being your fault, and somehow out of consideration for you. Don't fall for it. Also, get tested. The professional is probably clean, but you don't know where he's been. Link to comment
j.man Posted August 19, 2015 Share Posted August 19, 2015 No. He cheated on you because he wanted to call a sex worker and bang her. Not knowing if you'd be into the rough stuff isn't the issue. If this guy's mind is similar to that of any other man I've ever known, myself included, there are probably hundreds if not thousands of things he fantasizes about that you will never, ever, ever, ever, ever, and I mean EVER know. Believe me. If you've ever asked a man what his biggest or deepest or darkest fantasy is, whatever answer he gave you was a lie. He simply made something up that he thought was safe. Does that mean guys should have a license to cheat on their significant others hundreds of times each? No single person will ever satisfy 100% of their partner's sexual desires. If you're going to accept that as justification for having sex with other people, then I'd stop considering monogamous relationships. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted August 19, 2015 Share Posted August 19, 2015 Just when I thought I've heard every excuse in the book, this one beats all. Link to comment
emzygirl Posted August 19, 2015 Author Share Posted August 19, 2015 Thank you for your answer, I did feel like it was my fault.. When he started it was because we were arguing a lot.. Most of the arguments were about us not being able to see eachother a lot, I wanted him to come over more but he couldn't because of work. Link to comment
emzygirl Posted August 19, 2015 Author Share Posted August 19, 2015 I really appreciate your advice. I am so lost. I never expected this to happen. I don't know what to believe.. I don't know if he did it to push me away, because I wasn't good enough for him. Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted August 19, 2015 Share Posted August 19, 2015 , because I wasn't good enough for him. Don't even start to think like that. He did this because he's selfish. Link to comment
Man with Dog Posted August 19, 2015 Share Posted August 19, 2015 Don't even start to think like that. He did this because he's selfish. I agree and think everyone else here would agree too! Link to comment
Dottieflanogon Posted August 19, 2015 Share Posted August 19, 2015 All relationships need respect and cheating is not respectful. Long distance almost never works. You have to let him go and have a summer fling in your city. Link to comment
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