prettycutie Posted March 23, 2015 Share Posted March 23, 2015 It's been 56 days now, with NC. I feel proud of myself. Is it sad I feel proud of this? Idk for someone with low self esteem and low self confidence it feels like an accomplishment for me. Thank you guys for your opinions and helpful comments through these past few weeks; they have honestly helped me to move on and let things go. Life is too short to dwell on the past for anything we can't change. Link to comment
Allipie Posted March 23, 2015 Share Posted March 23, 2015 congrats!!! I'm at 6 days! Normally I would have broken it by now, but i'm going to stick with it this time. It's just not worth it to get sucked into any psychological games. Link to comment
cbh1979 Posted March 23, 2015 Share Posted March 23, 2015 You should feel proud of it...way to go! It is an accomplishment. Link to comment
sophie274 Posted March 23, 2015 Share Posted March 23, 2015 Not contacting an ex is one of the hardest things in the world, in my opinion. Letting go of someone and moving on are so tough. Well done! Keep it up. You're definitely doing what's best for you. Link to comment
prettycutie Posted March 23, 2015 Author Share Posted March 23, 2015 Thank you...It's been difficult especially considering I've blocked him on everything but in the long run it has helped and is helping the moving on process. Link to comment
and so it goes Posted March 23, 2015 Share Posted March 23, 2015 Actually, I do know what you mean. In fact, when I look back on my life, the times when I had to do NC were some of the most memorable and weirdly satisfying. Probably because I was doing all kinds of activities and adventures to take my mind off the reason for my NC. Plus you accomplish something by essentially doing nothing. (or doing the opposite to what your mind and body is telling your to do - which is continued begging/pleading and self pity) Ok, that was weird...but true. I like your title - it is a "zone" really Link to comment
petite Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 Of course it's an accomplishment and one you should be proud of. And one day if you decide to break NC that's ok too. Link to comment
patterned Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 It's been 56 days now, with NC. I feel proud of myself. Is it sad I feel proud of this? ...Thank you guys for your opinions and helpful comments through these past few weeks; they have honestly helped me to move on and let things go. Life is too short to dwell on the past for anything we can't change. You said low self esteem, but based on this post you sound plenty confident, expressing confidence and self worth. Link to comment
Brokenhart84 Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 You should be proud of yourself. You are putting yourself first! I'm at 80 days no contact and I'm doing so much better. If I decide to break no contact. I won't feel guilty for it. It won't set me back or anything because the majority of me is moving forward despite missing him. Link to comment
invisibleheart Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 Yes congratulation. What an accomplishment and I agree with everyone here, be proud of yourself! Keep going and stay strong. Link to comment
prettycutie Posted March 24, 2015 Author Share Posted March 24, 2015 Thank you guys But I do often ask myself if one day I should contact him. Just to ask him how he's doing. I know he probably won't reply for numerous reasons. Changed his number, blocked and/or deleted me, wants nothing to do with me, has a new girlfriend which he probably does already, etc. Or wondering why I haven't moved on. Thing is though I would have moved on...and I won't feel so upset contacting him. Even if he doesn't reply it still will help me feel proud. He truly did hurt me but should I break the ice one day in the future and just contact him? Link to comment
mhowe Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 There is no point in breaking the ice. And you won't feel proud...you will feel hurt again. Because you will have let him know that you haven't moved on. Moving on means not caring what he is doing... Link to comment
patterned Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 Thank you guys But I do often ask myself if one day I should contact him. Just to ask him how he's doing. I know he probably won't reply for numerous reasons. Changed his number, blocked and/or deleted me, wants nothing to do with me, has a new girlfriend which he probably does already, etc. Or wondering why I haven't moved on. Thing is though I would have moved on...and I won't feel so upset contacting him. Even if he doesn't reply it still will help me feel proud. He truly did hurt me but should I break the ice one day in the future and just contact him? I think you know the answer, and what you would say to someone else with the same question. At 57 days it's time to stop focusing on numbers and counting, you can look forward now. Link to comment
mandeelove Posted March 25, 2015 Share Posted March 25, 2015 I think all of us should feel proud about nc. We proved we are not defined by another person and we can truly move on to better things. I loved nc. I really grew and took care of me. April 2nd will be 3 months for me. !! 😊 this site has helped so much. Link to comment
Allipie Posted March 25, 2015 Share Posted March 25, 2015 I think you know the answer, and what you would say to someone else with the same question. At 57 days it's time to stop focusing on numbers and counting, you can look forward now. agreed. I think once you make it past the 30 day mark, there's no need to keep counting. Link to comment
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