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    Awesome! One of the key things to be less needy is to pick up new hobbies and redefine yourself. You have to bring something different to the table.😊
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    You should maybe post your story in a separate thread or in the NC challenge
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    Don't beat yourself up about having contact with him. It took me 3 weeks. I think we tend to go crazy over NC and make ourselves feel worse than we already do. Regardless you can't change someone's decision. Just focus on NC here on out. You will be fine. Trust me.
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    77 days. I'm so proud of myself. It took me 3 weeks to start Nc and it's the best thing I could of done for myself. I remember thinking that I could never get through this. Constantly thinking about how to get my ex back. I still think about him all the time but I am doing so much better than before.
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    70 days no contact! wow. Time goes by fast. Obviously i still miss him but I'm looking forward!
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    Just do it when you are ready. So as of now you are doing limited contact. You will truly feel better when you go completely no contact.
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    63 days since no contact. About 87 days days since breakup. I still think about him almost everyday and it hurts. But I definitely don't feel the same way I felt when I first came on this forum. I miss him so much. I have yet to go on a date because I'm not interested. I swim every week which has relieved so much stress. Also on a strict workout plan. Trying to be stronger and muscular. I'm focusing on moving out and putting a lot behind me.
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    Wow tomorrow makes 60 days. Times goes by fast! Haven't heard from him which is fine. I've met some new people but I'm not interested in dating. Looking forward to moving.
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    Wow 52 days!! Almost two months since I contacted him. I'm very proud of myself.
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    You asking her that will only VALIDATE the reasons she broke up with you. You will look desperate and weak. Women are attracted to strength and you will not display that asking her that question. Trust me what you are feeling will pass, you will not always feel the urge/need to call her. However, you will continue to miss her....but still keep breathing!
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    Good for you. One day at a time. How long were you in no contact for? Did you contact him at all from November-now? How did you recover from depression? I'm in it now and I'm still struggling. I'm going to therapy which is helping. I don't know what I want as of now in terms of my ex.
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    As each day goes by I know that I'll heal from this. You will not hear from me ever again. This is what you wanted. Im now coming to realize some of your flaws and I don't think I want to deal with them. I will move on and find someone better. I'm sure of this. You will keep running from relationship to relationship looking for sparks. You think you have it all when it comes to relationships, you don't. You were such an ass towards ending. I can't stand you right now.
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    I'm not sure if they are necessarily a scam or not. I only purchased one and spoke to the author. It did give some valuable information. Once you get out of the head space about "how to get you ex back". You will realize that 30 days is not long. You will also feel empowered to want to stay in no contact regardless if you miss them or not. I'm at 48 days no contact and refuse to break it and look like a fool. If they want to talk, they know where to find you. You will always have a lot to look forward to in your life regardless if you are with someone or not. It's comforting to think of meeting someone and developing feels again, but you have to spend time alone and work on yourself. Otherwise, you are delaying your healing and won't be able to be the best version of yourself.
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    Don't feel bad. It's took be 3 weeks and I did the text terrorism. Trying to get answer to why the breakup happened. I've been consumed with how to get my ex back. I even purchased the guide. The guide did have good point. But the most important thing is that no contact should go beyond 30 days and at 30 days you shouldn't even contact your ex. You should stay no contact for as long as possible. Take care of yourself and know that you will find someone else in the long run. Like I said I'm almost two months in and I'm still dealing with the depression, I still think of him everyday. But I don't have the urge to call him and I won't. Ask yourself, what is there to say? Who cares how they are doing? They are living and enjoying their lives. Eventually we will do the same when we get over this hump. It's a long road. But in the end we will be just fine.
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    Just take care of yourself. It's so early. I felt that way as well at first. I'm now almost 8 weeks no contact and I have a bit of a better outlook on finding someone. I'm a 31 year old female which I kept thinking about.
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    Some days good, some days not so good. Still getting over this hump of thinking about him all the time. Almost two months of no contact and haven't gotten there. No crying anymore. Just thinking about him way too much!!
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    I do miss him today 46 days. Time does go by. Sometimes I can't believe we are not together.
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    You have to realize that we all have been through this. He is being short with you and is annoyed because he no longer wants to hear from you and he is no longer a part of your life. It doesn't matter how much you show that you care or that you will change. He does not want to hear it! Do you think he wants to know how you are doing? The best thing you could do is remove yourself from his life. Trust and believe that you are strong enough to get through this. Your life does not surround around each other. Don't defeat yourself and say that you can't. Start focusing on goals and creating an amazing life for YOURSELF. He is not the only great guy out there.
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    It's 42 days. Wow. I was a bit sad yesterday when I saw two gentlemen reading valentines day cards for their girlfriends/wife. I will not be leaving my apartment today. I just don't want to see the cards, flowers etc. I'm not sure I want to be with him. However, I would like to talk to him.
  20. Brokenhart84
    It gets better .
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    Good for you! Keep it up. It gets better. I really don't miss my ex that much. Mind you, last Friday I felt different. No urge to call him. Life truly goes on! Have Faith ;-)
  22. Brokenhart84
    Even a bigger reason for you to move on. No one deserves this type of treatment.
  23. Brokenhart84
    It really does get better! I haven't cried for the week. 38 days my goodness!
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    I'm not sure what day it is but it's pass 30. The fact that I didn't hear from him only bday has put closure on this story. I'm feeling a lot better. I've decided to move, I'll probably live closer to him but that's not something he would know.
  25. Brokenhart84
    When you get the chance, try to read more on no contact. You may have cut off contact by phone, email and social media. But you haven't with mutual friends. At this time, it's best you try to do that. You don't have to do it forever. But at least for now. I honestly would not give them details. Try to stay strong around them. I would just tell them that you are trying to work on yourself and you have to detach yourself from the situation right now. Let them know not to discuss her because you are moving forward. Of course she thinking about you. But you need to focus on yourself. You are delaying your healing. She is doing perfectly fine and probably will still continue to contact you. She will never know what life is like without you. You are not doing yourself any good.
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