BelindaMajor Posted February 10, 2015 Share Posted February 10, 2015 My ex and I are almost 17. I was his first gf. We had known each other for about a year and dated for four months when he suddenly dumped me. It came as a shock because he was always just as chivalrous, gentlemanly, sweet and attentive to me as he had always been once we started dating. Even up to MINUTES before the breakup, he was always asking me questions about my life throughout the day (either in-person or via text) and paid attention, even when I thought what I was talking about might be boring. About a week before the breakup, I was recovering from surgery. Maybe he just texted me all that to be polite since I was recovering from surgery? But we had always texted each other all day since we became romantically involved, and we discussed SO MANY TOPICS beyond my recovery...and the only tiny red flags I noticed were that he was a little less physically affectionate (but that may have been because parents were around and he didn't like to PDA around them) and he wouldn't spend as much time with me as usual. I shook that off because he was helping his parents. I had always noticed red flags regarding his parents. They controlled his life. He had always had to end our dates early because they set strict curfews, even asking me to leave his house early at night. His parents were cold to me once they found out we were a couple. They never let us be completely alone together. Sex was never involved since they clearly wanted him abstinent (I was probably more forthcoming physically than he was!). They wouldn't help him pay for anything. And he LOVED his parents and talked about them a lot (much more than the average teen guy!). When he dumped me he said he wasn't ready for a relationship but we could still be friends. I said I couldn't trust him anymore and we haven't contacted each other since. He couldn't seem to face me at school and didn't come to my help (but I didn't ask him to). Then he treated me like a polite stranger. Now we just plain avoid each other. He hasn't had another gf. Did he suddenly lose interest in me? Or is this more about his parents not wanting him to date? Did they make him call it off? Link to comment
BelindaMajor Posted February 10, 2015 Author Share Posted February 10, 2015 All of the above. What do you mean? I was asking if it was the parents OR him losing attraction to me. Sorry I need clarity. Link to comment
mhowe Posted February 10, 2015 Share Posted February 10, 2015 He isn't ready for a relationship. He lost attraction to you,. His parents disapproved. Link to comment
BelindaMajor Posted February 10, 2015 Author Share Posted February 10, 2015 Did he lose attraction to me because his parents disapproved? Link to comment
BelindaMajor Posted February 10, 2015 Author Share Posted February 10, 2015 He isn't ready for a relationship. He lost attraction to you,. His parents disapproved. Or are you just refusing to take a stance? Link to comment
mhowe Posted February 10, 2015 Share Posted February 10, 2015 It is because of all of the reasons. And you posted this thread a few weeks ago... Link to comment
BelindaMajor Posted February 10, 2015 Author Share Posted February 10, 2015 It is because of all of the reasons. And you posted this thread a few weeks ago... Why do you think he lost attraction to me? Did I do something wrong/was I too boring for him? Link to comment
mhowe Posted February 10, 2015 Share Posted February 10, 2015 Bertha L...your other post got the same responses. He is too young for a relationship, he comes from a close family who did not approve of him dating you...and he lost interest. As most 17 yr old boys. Link to comment
BelindaMajor Posted February 10, 2015 Author Share Posted February 10, 2015 Bertha L...your other post got the same responses. He is too young for a relationship, he comes from a close family who did not approve of him dating you...and he lost interest. As most 17 yr old boys. So you think he was just texting me to be nice after my surgery? Link to comment
BelindaMajor Posted February 10, 2015 Author Share Posted February 10, 2015 Did he lose all interest in me, or did he just lose interest slightly and that combined with the parental pressures made him break up with me? Link to comment
BelindaMajor Posted February 10, 2015 Author Share Posted February 10, 2015 He is too young for a relationship, he comes from a close family who did not approve of him dating you...and he lost interest. As most 17 yr old boys. I guess my main question is, would he have broken up with me without the parental influence? Link to comment
mhowe Posted February 10, 2015 Share Posted February 10, 2015 Honestly...I think he lost interest and just used his folks as an excuse. Link to comment
kamurj Posted February 10, 2015 Share Posted February 10, 2015 Multiple accounts are not allowed, thread closed. Link to comment
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