A friend lost his daughter. How to reach out?

[SpottiOtti]

I've never dealt with anything like this before and I'm not sure how to best show that I care. This man is a longtime friend, not a close one but definitely "friend" as opposed to "acquaintance." His daughter just died of cancer; he's in her city dealing with hospice and funeral stuff and all of that. He didn't tell me directly; I found out from mutual friends. I don't know the protocol here; should I call him in a few days once he's home, or call him now? Should I go by his house in a few days? How to best communicate that I care about his loss, but without being intrusive?

[mhowe]

I would send a card now and call him in a couple of days and see if he wants to grab a bite. You don't need to talk...just listen and take your cue from that.

[Hollyj]

Agree with Mhowe.

 

I have lost my brother and father in a span of four years. it's just important for people to reach out and be supportive in a difficult time. Most important, listen and check in periodically.

[SpottiOtti]

Thank you both for your insights.