dreab212 Posted November 18, 2014 Share Posted November 18, 2014 So I've been talking to this guy I met on plenty of fish for about a month. We were ment to go on a date Tuesday but I had to cancel and rearranged for this Tuesday. Anyway we were texting Saturday night when we were both out drinking. Anyway ended up back at his yada yada. He took me home the next day and asked me if I would still like to go for a drink. Me still feeling slightly intoxicated said 'you still wana do that? And he looked at me like I have 5 heads. My question is have I blown any hopes of something more than sex? My male friend seems to think I have. He's still texting etc more so now and has rearranged to a lunch date Thursday as the rotas changed. Have I ruined it before it even started? I am a 😢 Link to comment
notalady Posted November 18, 2014 Share Posted November 18, 2014 Just because he's still in touch doesn't mean he wants anything serious with you. Tell him you had sex too soon and want to take things slow from now on, and arrange to have dates without sex. See if he sticks around. If not, you got your answer. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted November 18, 2014 Share Posted November 18, 2014 I can't speak for others, but IMO this scenario has a tendency to end up as FWB's, rather than leading up to a relationship. On the other hand, you took a huge risk by going home with a stranger and even more of a risk when alcohol is involved. Be careful... Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted November 18, 2014 Share Posted November 18, 2014 Meh, I think you both played your parts in leading it to casual rather than more. You are a grown woman, but I still agree with HeartGoesOn; pretty risky meeting up while intoxicated and having sex with a virtual stranger at his place. I'd be a little more concerned about that than about having blown it! For all you know, he could be a wack job. Just sayin'. And you were drunk...so in no position to have protected yourself. Link to comment
Sportster2005 Posted November 18, 2014 Share Posted November 18, 2014 What notalady said. I can't see any other way. Link to comment
mq9reaper Posted November 18, 2014 Share Posted November 18, 2014 You gotta be up-front with something like this Link to comment
PaintWithLight Posted November 18, 2014 Share Posted November 18, 2014 Just because he's still in touch doesn't mean he wants anything serious with you. Tell him you had sex too soon and want to take things slow from now on, and arrange to have dates without sex. See if he sticks around. If not, you got your answer. This rarely works. He has already formed an opinion. Link to comment
BigKK Posted November 18, 2014 Share Posted November 18, 2014 He is probably happy he found a potential FWB, doubtful he will see you as Long term potential...so try notalady's advice, but more than likely he will be out Link to comment
notalady Posted November 18, 2014 Share Posted November 18, 2014 This rarely works. He has already formed an opinion. It's just a way for her to find out either way, not a way to change whatever opinion he has already form. Link to comment
PaintWithLight Posted November 18, 2014 Share Posted November 18, 2014 It's just a way for her to find out either way, not a way to change whatever opinion he has already form. I agree with you. It would be good for her to get clarity if she is holding out hope to turn this into something more than FWB. She should be prepared for his response which could be skeptical. But maybe, he sees something there with her. Only by having this direct conversation will she know. Link to comment
dreab212 Posted November 30, 2014 Author Share Posted November 30, 2014 Heya quick update we have been on 3 dates since andand a few late coffees. He asked me what it is I wanted and what he wants. He asked if we could start again which we have. Time will tell. All is good all is fine =) Link to comment
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