wpngrl Posted July 30, 2014 Share Posted July 30, 2014 Ive been dating my boyfriend for over 5 years now. We live in different cities, were not engaged, and were not even very serious. Hes a good guy and treats me good, treats my kids good, and I love him very much. But I don't see him very much. He got a new job about 2 years ago that requires hm to work 16 hr days and just doesn't have time for me or my kids. I try to be understanding, but its hard when I spend so much time alone. I want to be with someone who will be a part of my life and my kids lives every day. Someone to come over at the end of the day and watch movies with, go for a walk, go to bed next to. Its been 5 years with him, and I still feel like a single parent. I want to get married and share my life with someone. Im just afraid if I break up with him I will regret it and be miserable. Ive talked to him about it so many times and he keeps saying it will change and hes trying, but nothing changes. I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose a good relationship because I think "the grass will be greener on the other side." Hes my best friend, but I tired of feeling and being so alone and raising my kids alone. What do I do?? Link to comment
mhowe Posted July 30, 2014 Share Posted July 30, 2014 I think you know...let go so you can find someone to share your life with. Link to comment
icecreamaddict Posted July 30, 2014 Share Posted July 30, 2014 It sounds like you are unhappy more than you are happy. If you have to ask, then you should break up. Link to comment
faraday Posted July 30, 2014 Share Posted July 30, 2014 That sucks It doesn't sound like things can change....if you've brought it up several times...it might be time to walk away. You could tell him that you need a timeline for when things will be different...like 3 or 6 months...and give real goals...like living in the same city and him working less. The only thing is...if after 5 years he still hasn't proposed.....an you're still not living together....it doesn't sound like he's interested in more. It's time to cut your losses. Link to comment
IAmFCA Posted July 30, 2014 Share Posted July 30, 2014 Why have you chosen a relationship that can't get any closer? Folks on ENA recently encouraged me that I can't get what I want unless I am willing to risk going for it. Your relationship does not provide what you want. You have no evidence that it ever will. Do what you need to do within yourself to attract what you want and to be ready for him when he shows up in your life. Something is holding you back, and it isn't your man (though you might choose to let him go as well). Link to comment
wpngrl Posted July 30, 2014 Author Share Posted July 30, 2014 We lived together once before and were engaged, but when he took the new job and was gone all the time, we fought all the time, he moved out, and we broke up for a while. I bought a house by myself just recently, and now that were trying to work it out again, he says we cant move back in together because my house isn't big enough for him and his son because I don't have enough bed rooms. Plus he doesn't want to fight over his job and end up moving out again. Link to comment
Lonewing Posted July 30, 2014 Share Posted July 30, 2014 Sounds to me like this has already ended but you keep hanging on to it... Link to comment
overthemoon86 Posted August 13, 2014 Share Posted August 13, 2014 Hi wpngrl - any update? How did things play out for you? Link to comment
wpngrl Posted July 21, 2015 Author Share Posted July 21, 2015 Things got even worse as time went on. He began lying to me saying he was calling and texting me when he wasn't. Long story short, we broke up, and I am dating other people now. Thank u everyone for the advise. It really helped me put things in perspective getting a outside opinion Link to comment
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