GreatGuy Posted December 6, 2004 Share Posted December 6, 2004 I have read alot of your posts and some I identified with, other didn't. But I am very pleased to see how the support system here could help proceed toward a higher spirituality. I have met this girl last year around Nov. We took things slow, she is 36 , me almost 30. She's been divorced for about 5years and it was an emotionally abusive relationship. Before meeting me she also had a couple of short relationships that where also not even close to what we had this year. When we met she told me that her therapist urged her to take 3months away from me, to deal with some of the ex-marriages issues before going hard for me. He did not know me, and the effects i was having on her. After meeting me she started realizing things about herself that were improving dramatically and even told me she really had no more use for that therapist. Mind you that when I met her it was love at first sight for me and I really wanted to do the "right thing" for once in my relationships. I let things develop slowly, no needy stuff, and told her that true love is one where both people are free to do what they want but choose to stay together because they want to. We would walk to the beach, she would wash my clothes, i'dcook, she'd help me with my work, i'd help her in some of hers. (she is a math-prof./classical dancer). As we progressed in our lives we got an apt to share in the city, while she got a smaller place in LI(where she teaches). We met each other's family, and then the biggest thing happened: She Proposed to me!! It was the most beautiful thing in my entire life and I said yes. That was almost three month ago. Then 7 weeks ago, she came by my work and said we needed to be apart, she'd been going back and forth, we should split up. I was in complete shock!! Then she emailed me after 1month of NC saying she had finally started dealing with her ex-husband issues and was seing her therapist twice a week. She then left for Europe to perfom and once back called me to talk, acting as if I was a simple friend, small talks, all about her and nothing about us. She sounded as if she was brainwashed. I just stayed cool and took sometime to myself before calling her and telling her that I had treated her better than any other person, and never once saw her unhappy because of me. Sure relationships have doubts sometimes over arguments, but these were very few, and we always talked afterward for closure. On the other hand my career is about to take off in a major way. But she was my family, patner, and best friend(we were pratically married). I am trying to make sense of what has happened to me, I did everything right, I would repeat everything I did, and the fact that she is now not even calling anymore. (she might be dating again...), some Dork probably! Quote Link to comment
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