Husband views naked woman daily.

[Lonewing]

The lamestream media conspiracy has gotten to you too, eh?

 

Now that I'm no longer actively pursuing FWBs, I've become porn-only. No doubt my addiction will destroy my life at any moment. (OK, I actually forgot to look at any, this weekend, as I was watching football.)

 

Oh yeah, completely...when you see the guys passing around their phones, there's a ten to one odds it's a naked picture... Heck, there's one guy who happily showed me a picture of the girl he was getting with, back when he just started dating her. They're married now...oh, the double life women don't know about...

[Lonewing]

I do think it's just a phase. Or maybe it isn't. Some weeks I don't go a day without looking at something, other weeks, I go without giving it a second thought. He's probablyno different.

 

Speaking to you like he did, that's a respect thing...unless you were trying to get a reaction. I will say my gf drove me crazy when she stayed in the buff, even if I pretended not to notice...

 

He's got too much time on his hands and not enough things to occupy his mind. It happens to all of us.

[bblue89]

Oh yeah, completely...when you see the guys passing around their phones, there's a ten to one odds it's a naked picture... Heck, there's one guy who happily showed me a picture of the girl he was getting with, back when he just started dating her. They're married now...oh, the double life women don't know about...[/]

 

Lol......

[Unreasonable]

You said, "I get that many if not most men look at porn."

- Not true and just another mass media pushed lie.

 

You're delusional. You're completely ignoring studies that indicate the opposite, including ones from Christian publications. They would not be running around like chickens with their heads cut off about this "problem" if there wasn't a "problem." Also, I know you've chimed in on pretty much every post about porn (one of the most common topics in ENA), so you know this is a common issue with people in their relationships.

[PaintWithLight]

I get that many if not most men look at porn. My husband never did though. Maybe a hand full of times a year and I was okay with that. Now he looks at it everyday and lies and deletes his history. That is the bigger problem. It's like he's turning into the typical perverted male and I'm not okay with it. Everyone says "oh that's what guys do it has nothing to do with your marriage.it does though l. It has everything to do with my marriage. I know he doesn't want anyone to see my naked body, but maybe ill just post my pictures be side I want to. It has nothing to do with our marriage. -in not serious. It's just the point.

 

How do you know he deletes his history? How do you know he is doing this all day, every day? I cannot see how you can state these things with such certainty then in the next breath say that you are not monitoring him.

 

He is deleting and lying because you forbade him. But now you have "discovered' that he is doing it again.

 

The ball is in your court now. This is something he likes. As another poster stated, wives do not know the secret lives of their husbands. He obviously wants to see some variety.

[Unreasonable]

Can you clarify... does he work at home, or takes his computer somewhere, and is looking at porn at a traditional workplace?

 

I'd be more inclined to believe there was some addiction going on if he was doing it at a workplace around other people, as that is very dangerous. However, if he's just some guy "working" at home at his computer all day, I can see how there'd be some points of boredom where he can be surfing his interests (like I'm doing now here).

 

Also, I am confused as are others how you know he is doing something all day every day? If he's using private mode on his browser, there's no way you could know this without very invasive means.

[Iggles]

The lamestream media conspiracy has gotten to you too, eh?

 

Now that I'm no longer actively pursuing FWBs, I've become porn-only. No doubt my addiction will destroy my life at any moment. (OK, I actually forgot to look at any, this weekend, as I was watching football.)

 

No offense, but I don't think your views align with the average guy. Most men don't say they can turn off their sex drives, nor do they aspire to be celibate.

[Cognitive_Canine]

Is the reason that you know he's lying about it because you are checking up on it every day?

 

My advice to you is to stay off the site. I am not sure why it matters if these are "real" girls or not. The women in professional porn movies or magazines are also "real."

 

Is he interacting with these women, i.e., holding a conversation with them in chat or otherwise?

 

If I were you, I'd be more concerned that he is a liar and that he conducts himself this way at his job. What kind of job allows him to do this all day, as you stated?

 

Yes. I agree with this.

 

I go on reddit just about everyday and if I click the "all" section, I'll get posts from the NSFW subreddits. I almost always click on them because they are there and I'm curious to see what has so much attention. I'm not even attracted to women! I click, think "nice rack" (or whatever), and move on with my life.

[Blue Spiral]

No offense, but I don't think your views align with the average guy. Most men don't say they can turn off their sex drives, nor do they aspire to be celibate.

 

What view did I state in that post? Please don't single me out for persecution because of my lifestyle choice.

 

OP needs to figure out what's changed, because something triggered this. Is the change in him, in her, in their sex life, or what? When exactly did he start doing this, and what happened around that time?

[Lonewing]

No offense, but I don't think your views align with the average guy. Most men don't say they can turn off their sex drives, nor do they aspire to be celibate.

 

I dare say in that post, he was being quite facetious...