jenuine17 Posted October 29, 2013 Share Posted October 29, 2013 Recently started dating someone new. He had been in a 5 year relationship prior to me(A). Before that he divorced his ex wife. I came accross a journal and his ex wife(B) talks about his ex gf©. Apparently he also lived with her. Yesterday we were having a good conversation and being that I already know about this "C" he acted he didn't remember her name. Should I keep asking? Now I'm curious. Why wouldn't he tell me. How much of the past is important to learn about in a new relationship? I know it's the past but it still says a lot of the person and who they are today? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hopelessincan Posted October 29, 2013 Share Posted October 29, 2013 Its none of your business. It's his past and his to keep or share. Is he aware that you read his journal? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
t1lersm0m1 Posted October 29, 2013 Share Posted October 29, 2013 Agree, the past is the past. It has nothing to do with your relationship. I try to talk about the past as little as possible. Why do you want to know about his past relationships? I wouldn't. I just like to make sure they are now completely over in their hearts since I was a rebound, so i asked the guy I'm seeing when his last serious relationship was. But nothing specific. I wanted to make sure he wasn't pining away for anyone like my ex is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nutbrownhare Posted October 29, 2013 Share Posted October 29, 2013 He probably doesn't want to drag up an aspect of his past which was a long time ago, ceased to be important a long time ago and may or may not have ended badly. This all happened a long time before you two were together. It's not really your concern. And you certainly shouldn't be reading his journal! (Unless it's with his permission, of course!). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ms Darcy Posted October 29, 2013 Share Posted October 29, 2013 Were you snooping to find this out? I think you should stop being nosy and get to know him on his own merits. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JJ2980 Posted October 29, 2013 Share Posted October 29, 2013 Actually I'm going to go against the grain. How many of us have thought "If only I'd had a convo with my partners exes I would've known to cut my losses and run"....lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ms Darcy Posted October 29, 2013 Share Posted October 29, 2013 Actually I'm going to go against the grain. How many of us have thought "If only I'd had a convo with my partners exes I would've known to cut my losses and run"....lol I personally think that's not a good way of approaching a conversation about exes. It's kind of a "gotcha" where you are looking for ammo to use against him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nutbrownhare Posted October 29, 2013 Share Posted October 29, 2013 But the OP won't be talking to his ex; she'd be talking to him! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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