Is it a bad idea to date someone you work with in your career?

[onlyforthis]

Basically the topic title says it all. Is this a bad idea, both of us are in our career at the same place and we are both early to mid 20s.

[tmtex]

IMO Yes. Can be a major hassel if things dont work out, along with "Could" degrade job performance

[savignon]

Usually its frowned upon and a lot of work places require you to disclose your relationship at some point, depending on the type of career you're in. At the same time, a lot of people meet at work....that's where we spend most of our time afterall.

[DepthOfField]

Proceed with caution. It can get really awkward if/when things don't work out.

Unless he/she is your "dream" person, I would just avoid it.

[Kaytie]

Tread very carefully. Even if this person is a peer now, you never know if they'll become someone you report to someday. I personally have very strict boundaries about people I work with - even socializing too much in a non-romantic way is kept to a minimum. But that's also specific to my particular career.

[Batya33]

I did -same age range, same situation except that we worked in different departments. I would have not been comfortable if we were in the same department and/or if he supervised me. We later married (years after we worked together) so it all worked out. I will say that one thing that helped us be discreet- back then, no internet or social media. We had internal e-mail and voice mail but we were discreet on those too. I know, mid 90s -ancient times. I am so glad I went for it!

[PaintWithLight]

Basically the topic title says it all. Is this a bad idea, both of us are in our career at the same place and we are both early to mid 20s.

 

Plenty of other opportunities. My advice..do not mix work and dating. Bad idea most of the time!

[HeartGoesOn]

It can make for a very uncomfortable atmosphere if the relationship doesn't work out. I'm a fan of keeping your personal life out of the work place.

[Deejmonster]

in polite terms for the forum... dont "poop" where you eat. I would stay away from it. It never ends well even when things are going well. It could also hinder your advancement opportunities due to conflict of interest liabilities.

[Batya33]

At least when I was dating there weren't plenty of other opportunities especially since I worked so many hours at the time, as did he. I know of several married couples who met at work -if done right it can be a great thing.

[HeatherB]

Bad idea, with two possible exceptions: 1. You don't work together and the culture at your workplace is extremely relaxed about the subject. Or 2. The connection is so compelling that it's worth risking both of your positions.

[Cherry1010]

Basically the topic title says it all. Is this a bad idea, both of us are in our career at the same place and we are both early to mid 20s.

 

in polite terms for the forum... dont "poop" where you eat. I would stay away from it. It never ends well even when things are going well. It could also hinder your advancement opportunities due to conflict of interest liabilities.

 

I just say straight up 'sorry I don't s h I t where I eat' when talking about this subject. In my opinion there's no exception. People talk about it. Who wants drama? No one.