Ated Posted November 3, 2004 Share Posted November 3, 2004 What should u do? My ex and i have been apart for 5 motnhs now, he replaced me with a new girl a month after the break up. The thing is, i was really hurt (as you would expect). It took all the strengh i had to get over him. Like others, at first, i begged and pleaded. But one day i promised myseld that i'd quit crying. Initially i was thinking about how to get revenge, and how to teach him a lesson... BUT i realised that that won't help. I decided that i taught MYSELF a lesson. That he ain't worth it! Anyhoo, after 3 motnhs of NC, i bumped into him. Nothing happened. Several other times, i bumped into him again. One day, i went to a cutural night and i had an idea he would be there, although i didn't go cos i know he would be there. I went because i WANTED to, not to 'bump' into him purposely! Anyways, the next day he calls me.... and ever since then, he called me at least once a week. At first i was like ok that nice... But he kept on talking about his new gf. And of course i got hurt so i told him to stop calling! And he goes "I talk about her cos i don't want to get ur hopes up!" and it gets me sooo frusttrated cos he plays mind games with me! For example, if he knows im being nice and stuff, he'll hit me at a soft spot and put me back to square one! I DID TELL HIM directly and indirectly that i do not appriciate his calls. In fact, when i found out that he had been intimate with this girl (sex) i seriously was disgusted and my rection led him to hang up! I thougth that was it! The end of it! And i was glad! But he Called agian this past monday and agian today! Twice!! I mean, i just don't get it! I told him to stop wasting his money! As calling me constitutes cheating and then again he becomes vain saying "la la la dun think i want u back cos im calling u.... i just wanna be friendss!" and im like "i dont think we can, i mean, we'll be FRIENDLY, but no need to talk on the fone cos you hurt me and i got nothig to say to u! im so much better off without u!" So he hanged up, and then he calls 10 minutes later and asks me 'why does it constitute cheating?? Then starts comparing me to the new gf and telling me next time make sure u get ur bf freedom la la la." ARGHHHH!!! So today when he called, i was nice to him (as always, not nice, but polite) As in, ive told him i dont appriciate his calls and all, but i wasnt like "Get stuffed and all this filthy words" So anyways, i managed to get off the fone saying i was sick (which i was) and i hope dhtat he gets the point!!! Because i always make sure i dun talk to him properly. Meaning, he asks me qs, i answer. i don ask his personal life (cos i dun wanna know~) Spo after that, he calls agian! Can u believe it?! lol And then he's like? Can i call ur land line... and im like "is it important" (HINT HINT) and hes like 'no im just bored, im at work" and im like "why not call ur gf instead" and hes like "oh shes out somewhere" and then he goes, ok dun start arguing with me agiain la la la and im like WTH?! and i fully snapped at him! SAying "look i really dun want u to call! i told u we got nothing to talk abut!" and i fully hanged up! i feel bad... I dunno why he keeps calling! Its so funny cos he was the one who said before (straight after the break up) that im so annoying i keep calling.... that he's ggonna change his number... bla bla bla.... I swear he is soooo vain! and ARGH! I dunno what to do! I just wish i can tell him staright out!? any advice... I just wanna live my life. He's moved on! why does he keepp calling for?! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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