I'm 44, Girlfirend 31..........we want to have a family.....

[Luigi68]

We have been together for 18 months, are both settled, jointly own house etc .....we want to start a family......I have two children aged 16 and 13 - we are set on what we want to do - any advice thoughts etc etc.......am aware of future care concerns but intend to liove a long life so dont entertain that thought...........

[Loveandlost]

ur 44, kids will be going to college early 60s, not horrible if thats what you want. its your life man. I couldn't imagine having another kid and I'm only 31. Im looking forward to traveling in my 40s lol.

 

to each their own.

[Luigi68]

I am a young 44, in mind and body I suppose, still play football and not yet ventured into veterans league which can start at 35.... Feel like I have lots to offer and would love to go through it all again and hope I can - just interested in peoples views/experiences. Thanks for your post

[Kaytie]

If you both want a family, then have a family. My partner had her daughter at 41. She is 50 now and my step-daughter is nearly 9 and all is well.

[Luigi68]

Thanks Kaytie

[Skooz]

My then wife and I had a surprise package when I was 45.

 

Best thing that ever happened to me. She is a source of deep and profound joy.

 

Go for it.

[In the Dark]

Possible.

My parents were 41 and 31 when they had me.

[pl3asehelp]

Can you function on maybe 3 hours sleep a night? I could just barely do it in my early 30's.

[catcountry]

I have a co-worker that is 44 tomorrow. He and his wife (well...not really wife yet but they have been together for 10 years and already have a 5yo together) found out just this week that they will have another little one in August. GO FOR IT!!!! =)

[offplanet]

Yes, you only live once (I think!) so it'd be a pity to miss out, especially if your gf doesn't have children already. Reasons people give for something not being a good idea sometimes turn out not to matter at all. There are no rules about this sort of thing.

[abitbroken]

Go for it--- but I would talk about getting married before having a little one. I would also make sure you are on the same page about your money habits, and the way you would raise the kids as far as faith and other issues before you have a little one. You guys may share a home but a little extra stress happens when a little one comes along and any area of incompatibility is amplified.

[Luigi68]

Thank you, thats good advice. We sorted the money side before we moved in and bought together and that has worked well so far, kind of team approach to the way we deal with it all. We aim to employ similar thinking and discussion to other aspects surrounding children etc. Many thanks