Was this a brush off?

[bebeblondie]

So I had a date with a guy Thursday night, it went pretty well, he seemed really interested making references to seeing me again and so forth. Anyway at the end of the date he walked me to my car and I thanked him for the drinks and said it was nice meeting him. He then asked me if I would like to go out again and I said yes, and then he said "ok so let's keep in touch". Normally I would take that line as a brush off, but this guy is from a foreign country so there is a bit of a language/culture barrier. I have not heard from him since the date, but then again prior to us meeting he wasn't big on contacting me either, he just contacted me to make a date and then the day of to confirm. So my question is in this context do you guys think "lets keep in touch" is a brush off?

[FabulousGrace]

No, I don't think it was. If he was brushing you off, he would not have asked you if you wanted to go out again. He'd have probably said nothing!

Just hold out...I'm sure he'll be in touch at some point.

[MasterPo]

From you state, I don't think so but yeah, his statement sounds odd. IDK, Thursday eh? I would say maybe Tuesday/Wednesday latest you should get some kind of contact or not. Good luck.

[bubble16]

what country is he from?

[Why1234]

Yes he is brushing u off, it is what I say too. If I like someone I usually text after the date saying I had fun too! But I usually talk to her the next day or two setting up another date. Sorry

[bebeblondie]

Also just wanted to add before we actually met he also used the phrase "lets keep in touch"

[bebeblondie]

what country is he from?

 

He's from Israel

[dontblink182]

I mean, I'm a girl, but I say that all the time and I mean it? haha I don't think he would have asked you out if he wasn't interested. I say give it a full week ( you never know what he has going on, he could be busy ) and if you don't hear from him reach out and see what happens. Good luck!

[Klokwurk]

Israeli dudes are super egoists. Let him go!

[greta96]

I wouldn't necessarily take it as a brush off yet. I agree, he could have shown more interest, but maybe he is one of those people who don't show much emotion... Just wait and see what happens in the next week or so, and if you don't hear from him, it means he wasn't that interested, and you can move on.

[Angler]

Am I missing something here?

 

He wants to see you again, and wants to keep in touch....that's pretty universal no matter where you're from, no!?

 

Contacting you to make a date, and once to confirm is perfect. It leaves stuff to talk about...you know...on the date.

[Ms Darcy]

It's not necessarily a brush off. It depends on the tone and whether or not he contacts you again.

[falldownkid]

Don't torpedo something over a throwaway phrase. The only thing that matters is whether or not he asks you out again.

[Sportster2005]

Probably. If a guy likes a girl on a first date his goal is to ensure a second date. "Keep in touch" means about as much as "I'll call ya" which means I don't want to come right and say there won't be a second date.

[25thfloor]

in my experience, it's a blow off. but who knows? I do know that when you're interested, you actually get in touch pretty soon.

[bebeblondie]

Probably. If a guy likes a girl on a first date his goal is to ensure a second date. "Keep in touch" means about as much as "I'll call ya" which means I don't want to come right and say there won't be a second date.

 

You're probably right, but he did use that term before we met as well, and why would he ask me if I want to go out again? In my experience when they're not interested they don't ask if you want to go out again.

[25thfloor]

people will say anything to get past that last 10 minutes on a date.

[minorissues]

It's not a brush-off...unless he doesn't call. I've had first (and fifth) dates ending with everything from "Hey let's catch a football game this coming Sunday" to "I'll drunk text you later!" to "Bye" and everything in between, and it's never meant anything as far as the final outcome of whether or not he called. Just out of curiosity, have you heard from him yet?

[bebeblondie]

It's not a brush-off...unless he doesn't call. I've had first (and fifth) dates ending with everything from "Hey let's catch a football game this coming Sunday" to "I'll drunk text you later!" to "Bye" and everything in between, and it's never meant anything as far as the final outcome of whether or not he called. Just out of curiosity, have you heard from him yet?

 

No I have not heard from him but, yea that has been my experience as well. I once had a guy just say "bye, it was nice meeting you" and then called me the next day to ask me out again. So I don't put all that much weight on the last thing they say. However the whole date he kept paying me compliments, like telling me I'm very pretty (more than once) and saying he thought the date was going really well, he even asked me if in the future I would teach him to play a certain game we were talking about, that's why I thought he was pretty interested. Then again, with online dating you never know, I know most guy are meeting multiple women, so maybe he just met someone he liked better.

[bebeblondie]

people will say anything to get past that last 10 minutes on a date.

 

I don't think that was the case here, I gave him the perfect out, saying good night first and saying it was nice meeting him, he could've just smiled and said the same. Besides with the whole tone of the date I doubt he would just say that to get past the last 10 minutes.