Possible to offer unconditional love? How did you do it?

[unanimous123]

Has anyone of you here ever consciously love somebody? Being in a few long term relationships, I realize that relationships really takes work and it has to be a decision to love someone. So for those of you here who decide to love unconditionally, how did you do it and what are your boundaries? Boundaries, I supposed for example, would be cheating (which is a given,of course)...what else?

[unanimous123]

Has anyone of you here ever consciously love somebody? Being in a few long term relationships, I realize that relationships really takes work and it has to be a decision to love someone. So for those of you here who decide to love unconditionally, how did you do it and what are your boundaries? Boundaries, I supposed for example, would be cheating (which is a given,of course)...what else?

[Capricorn3]

Boundaries, I supposed for example, would be cheating (which is a given,of course)...what else?

I believe there will always be some boundaries in any relationship.

 

Cheating

Drugs

Alcohol

Lack of hygiene

[Capricorn3]

Boundaries, I supposed for example, would be cheating (which is a given,of course)...what else?

I believe there will always be some boundaries in any relationship.

 

Cheating

Drugs

Alcohol

Lack of hygiene

[Lonewing]

There is unconditional love, but there are indeed boundaries. The boundaries are akin to betrayal or treason; hence, they are acts that are unexcuseable, because to excuse them would be to bury yourself.

[Lonewing]

There is unconditional love, but there are indeed boundaries. The boundaries are akin to betrayal or treason; hence, they are acts that are unexcuseable, because to excuse them would be to bury yourself.

[Chalk]

I think love is conditional & unconditional at the same time. My boundaries would be: violence, cheating, drugs, emotional abuse. We may love them unconditionally for who they are but there are conditions to them to keep in the relationship. I agree with you that love is a conscious choice & takes work.

[Chalk]

I think love is conditional & unconditional at the same time. My boundaries would be: violence, cheating, drugs, emotional abuse. We may love them unconditionally for who they are but there are conditions to them to keep in the relationship. I agree with you that love is a conscious choice & takes work.

[annie24]

I think that the only people who will ever love you unconditionally are your mother and your pets. and even they have boundaries/conditions as well.

[annie24]

I think that the only people who will ever love you unconditionally are your mother and your pets. and even they have boundaries/conditions as well.

[Godless_Heathen]

There was a period in my late 20's when I was kind of hung up on the phrase "unconditional love," since it seemed like some kind of ideal to me, something I was supposed to do. Then I realized what everyone in this thread has been pointing out: there are always boundaries, and there should always be boundaries. Even if we're talking about a child, if your child is a sociopath who actively enjoys other people's pain, that's something you cannot and should not love.

[Godless_Heathen]

There was a period in my late 20's when I was kind of hung up on the phrase "unconditional love," since it seemed like some kind of ideal to me, something I was supposed to do. Then I realized what everyone in this thread has been pointing out: there are always boundaries, and there should always be boundaries. Even if we're talking about a child, if your child is a sociopath who actively enjoys other people's pain, that's something you cannot and should not love.

[Keyman]

I had a pet rock that I considered loved me unconditionally.

 

Then one day I hit it with a hammer and it broke up on me.

 

That's the only time I ever believed in that. I never did forgive that rock.

[MizzGee]

I do believe in unconditional love... Even when those boundaries are crossed, one can still love that person, but also decide they can no longer be together.

Going off of Heathen's example, I'm sure many parents of murderers still love their child, but that probably does not stop them from being ashamed and disturbed. You can love and still be logical.

[nbr]

I unconditionally love my wife.

I can honestly tell you that if she ran off an slept with another man, while we may divorce, I would love her no less.

I can honestly tell you that there is nothing in this world I would deny to her out of selfishness or malice.

 

Also, see my sig for why that is actually not all that healthy

-nbr

[unanimous123]

Thank you for your responses, everyone. Everybody has good points. I'm looking at it from the romantic POV though, can only parents offer unconditional love to children?I guess I'd like to believe it exists in romantic relationships too.

[Capricorn3]

I'm looking at it from the romantic POV though, can only parents offer unconditional love to children?I guess I'd like to believe it exists in romantic relationships too.

I guess anything is possible, but I think it's a little unrealistic.

[Ms Darcy]

I think love can be unconditional in that you will commit yourself to caring about the person always. At the same time, you set conditions for being together with your boundaries. I can leave someone for cheating, for example, but sill choose to love them (it's just from afar).