ChellyV Posted August 27, 2012 Share Posted August 27, 2012 i am in a relatively new relationship, 4 months, exclusively dating, and i believe no strong emotional attachment yet. i am at a period where i am trying to decide whether to go on with it or not. he seems passive, uninvolved, doesn't speak too much, never plans dates or weekends, and most of all, doesnt even have long term goals in his own life. it is quite hard. i am getting exhausted. suggestions on how to handle? Link to comment
charity Posted August 27, 2012 Share Posted August 27, 2012 let go! why would you stay? in 4 months of exclusivity there should be a strong emotional bond. relationships are something that should be enjoyed, not endured. Link to comment
siegfri333 Posted August 27, 2012 Share Posted August 27, 2012 he seems passive, uninvolved, doesn't speak too much, never plans dates or weekends Ok you're bored, and you don't love him. Why are you with him? , and most of all, doesnt even have long term goals in his own life This is unfair, you're 42, i assume he is around your age, what kind of "long-term goals" should he have ? You're not 20 something anymore... Link to comment
Minx2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Share Posted August 27, 2012 let go! why would you stay? It's probably because she is 42 years old and being single at that age is a lot harder than if you were single in your mid 20s or even early 30s. With that being said, hopefully, the OP realises that it's better to pursue happiness actively than stay in a limbo of a relationship, passively. You let life go by having a lacklustre relationship when you should be swept off your feet, having the time of your life. Link to comment
ChellyV Posted August 27, 2012 Author Share Posted August 27, 2012 i meant, long term goals for himself - i mean something pertaining to himself in terms of career, and personal growth. he never speaks about it nor answers my query when i do. maybe he refuse to share it? but nonetheless, yes minx is right, life is too short. that 4 months could have been enough to get to know someone and measure is he or is he not going to be? Link to comment
mhowe Posted August 27, 2012 Share Posted August 27, 2012 The beginning of a relationship, say the 1st 4 months, is supposed to be the fun, yahooo, can't wait to see you time. He is what he is -- and he doesn't sound like relationship material. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted August 27, 2012 Share Posted August 27, 2012 You sound done. Perhaps it's time to end it. Link to comment
MizzGee Posted August 27, 2012 Share Posted August 27, 2012 I also think it's time to move on. If you're already exhausted at 4 months, why waste more of your time? From what you said it doesn't sound like he's that interested either.. Link to comment
RGS Posted August 27, 2012 Share Posted August 27, 2012 Agreed, sounds like its best to leave this one. At least it sounds like it'll be relatively easy to move on from. Link to comment
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