penguin22 Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 My dad is overly emotional, almost to the extreme. I am his baby girl (24 years old) and I am getting married in 10 days on February 19th. My dad is really old fashioned and he still believes that the man should be the bread winner and that I should be able to stay home and take care of children when and if we choose to have children. My fiancee and I have been together for 2.5 years and are madly in love. We're both happy and my fiancee has been through alot with me and my family. He was there when my dad was evicted, he was there when my brother almost overdosed, he was there when my brother was in jail... He's very understanding and although I make more than he does at the moment, he is working towards his guard card so he can get a better job. He was in the military but he was general discharged so he lost all of his benefits... I am graduating with my BA in Child Development and with him, formal schooling is not for him... he'd much rather go to a trade school. My fiancee and I are living paycheck to paycheck but we're still living quite comfortably. Once his guard card goes through, as his partner in life, I will support him in finding a new job. However, my dilemma at the moment, is my dad doesn't seem supportive... mainly because we're still getting our life together but we're doing it together... Everytime I bring up the wedding, he sounds hesitant on the phone or he changes the subject. I tried asking him what was wrong, and he keeps telling me that he's afraid that my fiancee doesnt have a good enough job to take care of me... I keep telling him that we're working together on remedying the situation, and to me it seems like it isn't good enough for him. On another note, when my brother got married, my brother moved on with his life and stopped calling my dad everyday or even once a week... and his wife doesn't call my dad, dad, which to my dad is very disrespectful... I think my dad also has the fear that this will also happen with my fiancee, even though I keep telling my dad that it isn't going to be the same. I am afraid that at my wedding, my dad will cry way to much and that will cause me to cry alot which will probably ruin the pictures since I am just as sensitive and emotional like my dad. However, since my dad is 74 years old, I want him to be there at my wedding and to be able to dance with me.. I don't wanna put it off til my fiancee and I get our financial situation more stable because what if my dad isn't here anymore once that does happen...because I know that my fiancee is the one I do want to spend my life with. Oh and if you haven't noticed, I also worry ALOT. Please post your opinions, I am open to it. Link to comment
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