The Mouse Posted November 24, 2011 Share Posted November 24, 2011 Hey guys just an update so you can do your analysing wondering if this would fit your situation. Been 3 months since BU, mostly NC but on friendly terms. I was away for a month came back last week and thought id had enough of the NC and due to not feeling any better thought id contact my ex, see how the land lies and then deal with the consequences. So on the 21st i sent an email, got a nice reply asking me to meet. I felt this looked positive but didnt read into anything. We met lastnight, all nice and friendly, it was actually nice to catchup just to see her. After leaving i did what we all go through thinking maybe i should of brought up the relationship but of course this isnt in the ena rule book so i left it at that. This morning it was really bugging me and thought id rather just come clean, get my result and accept it as closure. I text my ex saying in a nutshell i hadnt expressed my feelings properly lastnight and would like to speak about the break up. She said ok im ok to do that ill come to yours tonight. So basically we spent the last 3 hours, me listening but mostly explaining my actions, feelings, why i was like that etc. She does see change in me, the fact i opened up to her like that was the first time ever. 3 months on she's not dated anyone, cant be arsed with guys, really misses me, she was in tears when i said friends isnt a realistic expection for us to move on to but i got the she loves me but isnt in love me card. So in a nutshell, weither i broke NC or not it wouldnt of made a diffrence in my op as she was never going to want to come back. I feel better for breaking it and putting my cards on the table. I feel this is more benefical to me to know where i stand instead of going round in circles with no contact so for me now i think i need to give up looking for answers on the getting back together page as ive nothing else to try! Obviously gutted but i do have a feeling of closure knowing ive done my best and kept it dignified between us.....now wheres the vodka and sleeping tablets....jk!! Link to comment
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