missmar Posted November 20, 2011 Share Posted November 20, 2011 Hi All, New guy comes into work, we lock eyes and there was a connection. I knew from the start that I was older then him (considerably older) and I played it real cool with him. We worked in the same group and within a week he was assigned to a project I working on, however I was really pissed off when they put him in charge of it. He knew little about the project and I was bitter about it. This helped me a bit with my crush I had, because I just got flat out mean with him. Turned out that he did not know much about he project and would try to meet with me the help him out....I refused to be so helpful. Meantime every girl in the office is drooling over him and I am not paying him any attention Anyway we had weekly meeting together and I would notice him staring at me, after a month I got over the issue of him being put in charge of the project. However he would get chatty with me and make remarks to me "you are quite popular" and I would drop hints that I was older him by saying things like " i have 15 years experience in Project Management...blah blah... I was always cutting him down, because I was mad that I actually was attracted to him and I could not resist him. Well one day he invites himself to lunch with a group I meet one a week...I was a nervous wreck but I said he could come along. Well needless to say this raised some eyebrows in the office. But I knew there was something going on between us and I was fighting all the way. I cooled it off real quick by just staying away from him. Went away on XMAS vacation, and I realized I missed him and could not deny it anymore. Got back to work after the holidays and we both ran into each other in the hall with BIG SMIRKS and our faces, as we walked past each other we both looked back with the evil grin...you know the one I talking about. Things got a little steamy with the looks and the smirks when he would leave for the day he would come around the corner and just stop and stare at me....but he never asked me out. After XMAS break I was let go due to contract funding being depleted, and then was asked back 3 weeks later. When I showed up back at the office there was so much tension (good tension). We worked together on a project and finally the topic of how old everybody was came up... I let the cat out of the bag and told him how old I was. MAN>>>He looked like his puppy just died. He look devasted, and I went home and cried. Next day it was awkward, but he would not stop staring at me and smiling...his face would get all red and his eyes all dilated. The whole freakin office knew about it. Well he came over to me and asked what I was doing this weekend...and he was all choked up and could hardly talk, I was horrified again, because this was at work so I responded and with a sarcastic remark " sleeping til 10 and then doing whatever I want" He could say nothing after that. The higher ups saw what was going on and put him on another project in a different building. He would make up excuses the show up over in my building and shamelessly look me up and down like a wolf LOL. Then out of nowhere he just stopped and whenever he saw me he looked like he wanted to kill me "eyes". I think the whole office is blaming me about not telling him upfront about how old I was, and I think he talked with other coworkers about it, and they all blame me. I feel like I gave him enough hints...and besides we both got hurt from this. I quit soon after because the pressure of the whole thing was dragging me down. I still think about him, still want to talk to him and good god I want to be with him. Any suggestions on how to approach him about this, I find out what he was really feeling..jsut cant forget him Link to comment
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