tehjanna Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 I was wondering how some of you are coping with your break-up. It's been a month for me, with limited contact and I am falling apart. I feel severely depressed, therapy isn't helping, I'm constantly worried what my ex is up to, and I feel like there is no hope to even go on for me. I don't have much of a support system, and nor do I want to rely on people to help me, because I don't want to burden them with my sadness. I just want somebody to understand what I'm going through. My ex has said, through our contact since the breakup that he misses me and it's very hard for him too. Previously, the day we broke up, he said he would love to be with me in the future once he figures his (quite severe) financial situation out, and how badly it was depressing him, essentially that he didn't feel "man" enough anymore because he couldn't provide. And doesn't want to bring me down with him. Also, that he isn't going to be looking for anybody else. The past few months he was very depressed about his situation and when we broke up, he told me that he loved me but wasn't in love with me anymore because he couldn't see this working out, unless he got his stuff together. Obviously, this hurt, but I knew with all our problems in the relationship, especially financially and otherwise, it was somewhat inevitable. I just don't know how to cope right now. I feel like I can't even go on/have the energy to go on with my life. We live close and I try to avoid things like going to my favorite mall, for fear of running into his brother who works there. I constantly check up on him online on the dating website we met on, wondering if he found somebody else, when he will change his status to single, etc. It's driving me nuts but obviously I know what I'm doing wrong. I just can't help it at this point. I mean this was the guy that even discussed marriage with me. . I just want to know how others are coping with a fresh breakup. Thank you all so much for your help. Link to comment
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