ashley001 Posted October 18, 2011 Share Posted October 18, 2011 My boyfriend is 21, I'm 20, we've been together for about 7 months. He watches porn A LOT. We're talking at least once a day, if not, twice a day. I know this because every time I'm over at his house and I want to use his Ipad he says, "Wait! Let me clear my recently viewed websites first" and he's straight up with me when I ask him. I have nothing against him watching porn, and he knows that. The only thing that makes me feel a bit insecure is the frequency in which he watches it! We have sex about 3-4 times a week, we're both college students, and I work a lot so it's not like there's a lot of free time, but we definitely make time for each other. But I just feel like I'm not satisfying his sexual needs, or that he doesn't find me attractive, etc. I also feel like because he watches porn so much he has all these expectations for me about the way I should look/perform in bed. So my question is, how often does your bf/gf/husband/wife, etc. watch porn? What do you think about it? Does it make you feel inadequate? Link to comment
22n32 Posted October 18, 2011 Share Posted October 18, 2011 I never watch porn when in a Rel... We make our own porn It's kinda like bringing sand to the beach... I think 2 a day sounds like an addiction.. I've seen porn ruin a few Rel.. Link to comment
Captain Obvious Posted October 18, 2011 Share Posted October 18, 2011 1-2 times a day is definitely not a lot I assure you. Link to comment
LDRohnos Posted October 18, 2011 Share Posted October 18, 2011 Once a day is not an addiction. Now if your guy is declining to having sex with you then he's in his room masturbating an hour later...you may have an addict. Link to comment
22n32 Posted October 18, 2011 Share Posted October 18, 2011 ^^^ sounds like we have some porn addicts. Jk 1-2 times a day is not a lot... Hmmm scratch head.. Link to comment
In the Dark Posted October 18, 2011 Share Posted October 18, 2011 21 is 'supposed to be the males sexual peak or something. Been a long time since I have heard it mentioned. So he maybe going off his rocker at the moment sexually. How much time does he spend watching porn? Personally, I would have thought with the computer age, people would have watched so much porn that it becomes something not really that interesting to watch continuously. I have to agree with 22n32 about making your own movies as the emotions and feelings are remembered during that time. Link to comment
DrKitten Posted October 18, 2011 Share Posted October 18, 2011 I have no idea. When I use his computer, sometimes a porn site pops in the address bar but I've never checked the history. We have sex 5-6 times a week and enjoy frequent non-sex time together too. So I'm not too worried about what he does in his alone time. If you have sex 3-4 times a week, despite both being busy students, I'd say you have nothing to worry about. Link to comment
Alezia Posted October 18, 2011 Share Posted October 18, 2011 My boyfriend watches around once a day. It gets slightly annoying at times, not really because of the frequency but rather the time period per session. It can drag on for 2-4 hours per session. He usually starts when the kids are in bed around 8h30-9pm or sometimes later, sometimes it can stretch up to 10pm; where as I just don't feel excited after tucking the kids to bed. I need a period to wind down and clean up etc... I have sex around the same frequency as you do, and I've never related it to myself personally. I am just not willing to go on for that long. I find it's because I have actual interests - I want to read a book, take a bubble bath, chat here, go out with friends etc... where he only plays video games or masturbates. He's essentially replaced his hobbies when he's tired of video games with porn. I think most men know that porn is not grounded in reality. Women with H sized breast implants, and a butt as large as the sun. I doubt any of them would actually expect you to look such a way. I would say that you've created those expectations because you feel like he's hiding something from you when he keeps clearing his history. Link to comment
FathomFear Posted October 18, 2011 Share Posted October 18, 2011 I also feel like because he watches porn so much he has all these expectations for me about the way I should look/perform in bed. This is probably unlikely. Some people just get in the habit of watching porn. It wouldn't surprise me if he watched the same amount of porn even if you were having sex 20 times week. Link to comment
LDRohnos Posted October 18, 2011 Share Posted October 18, 2011 This is probably unlikely. Some people just get in the habit of watching porn. It wouldn't surprise me if he watched the same amount of porn even if you were having sex 20 times week. ^ Yep. My buddy who may very well be a porn addict ended up dating/getting into a relationship with someone who somehow has a higher libido than he does. They have sex 2+ times a day so long as there's time to do so. He still masturbates every day anyway. I know too much, I know. Link to comment
stupidboy Posted October 18, 2011 Share Posted October 18, 2011 Yeah 22 and when I was 21 my wife confronted me about watching porn. I never saw the big deal of it. I didn't see the effect it had on her. She told me though how it effected her and I stopped. So maybe just tell him how it makes you feel. Maybe he hasn't thought of that. Link to comment
SicFounder Posted October 18, 2011 Share Posted October 18, 2011 I would be worried if he was in his late 30's or something. But in early 20's... I'd be worried if he wasn't watching porn... Link to comment
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