It Finally Happened (And Question)

[thegamev1]

So, after months of being in pain about my ex, I finally implemented the no contact rule about a month ago. I was still kind of checking her FB and Twitter accounts, and got some stuff that just kind of made me feel like poo (she's going out on a date this week, GAH), and I was very close to breaking the no contact.

 

But today it hit me. It finally hit me after six months of trying to understand what the heck I did. I finally know now, and it suddenly made the whole "No contact" thing easier. Since we've been broken up I've been working out, I got a new job, and I finally got a car (part of my problem, I was a pansy and very unappealing when it came to improving my life). For the first time in a very long time, I understand everything, and I have accepted the breakup and why it happened.

 

But even with accepting it, I still just miss her. I miss the genuine person she was, even if she did break my heart. Her birthday is coming up, and like I said, I've had no contact for over a month (and it will be longer until her birthday). Do I send a Birthday card with a nice little letter, or is a text good enough? Do I even do anything at all?

[whysoalone]

I did nothing when it came to my ex's birthday, you don't have to do anything either. Good to see you're on the right path!

[SelinaSmile]

Nothing. You will just feel like crap after because you'll expect her to call you up and thank you or something and she doesn't.

 

My ex's bday is coming up in a couple weeks actually and I plan to keep myself busy that whole day (we were supposed to go camping)

[Sanity]

My ex birthday in a week. I'm trying so hard to convince myself not to do anything

[sadchick83]

Dont do anything- All you will do is set yourself up for disappointment when you don't get your desired response. Then, on your next birthday they won't do anything and you will feel crappy again.

[DerekJason]

yeah dont do anything. i made the mistake of sending roses to her job for her bday, 2 weeks post BU, i got a thanks, but that was it. my point is, you wont get the reaction that youre hoping for.

[aminaSa]

dont do it,,,it will not make you feel better

 

i you want her back it might be actually even better not to wish her happy b...she will ask herself if you moved on and whats up

[Mellie]

My ex's birthday is tomorrow. I won't be saying zip. Down that road lies all the neurotic email /text/FB/twitter checking starting up all over.

 

No thank you.

[AutumnBorn]

I don't recommend it now that you've initiated NC. If your ex isn't a friend, why would you acknowledge it in any way? It's hard to ignore what would have been special days, but trust that she'll wonder if you will and might even be disappointed when you don't. It'll be something she'll miss and will make her think about you.

[jeepman41]

There is no need to do anything. You are broken up. You are probably looking for some type of response. If you have initiated NC just keep doing that. You will feel a lot better.