freshlyfresh Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 Hi, This is a little embarrassing. The first time I'm in bed with a new woman, I lose my erection. It's completely psychological; I'm generally a very highly sexed individual and after I get comfortable with a woman there are far from any problems - like a rock lol!. The problem stems from the first time I tried to have sex, at 17. We were both very drunk and it didn't work. The second time (about a month later, same girl), it didn't work either because I was HOPING it wouldn't go the same way as last time. I've had one girlfriend since and there were problems at first, but she was very understanding - after the second time it was no longer an issue. I'm sure it's all about feeling comfortable and knowing it doesn't matter if it does happen. I'm single again, and while I'm generally very confident in myself and attract women fairly naturally - I'm nervous about when it comes to sex. It feels like I need to become close and comfortable with a woman emotionally before we get to the bedroom - I know, I probably sound stupid! I'm nervous that if it happens with a woman, she'll feel insulted or angry at me. If a woman did get this way (after me explaining it isn't her, she's sexy as hell and i just need to feel comfortable because of xyz), I know she isn't the kind of woman I'd want to be with anyway - but it would still be annoying!!! How would you, as a woman feel/ react, if a man was delaying having sex with you until he felt more comfortable around you? How would you feel/ react if he lost his erection the first few times while being with you but explained the situation? Any advice really appreciated. Thank you. Link to comment
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.