Does progressing to the next stage of the relationship scare him?

[marsbars]

Does progressing to the next stage of the relationship scare him?

 

We had been dating for just over 2 years and had decided that we wanted to buy a house together. Over the summer, we got a real estate agent and started looking for a house. We fell in love with one house and he said that he saw our future together ... us, a house, a dog, a bbq...

 

The house hunting was put on hold as my workload began to pick up at work. I also felt that we needed to save a little more so that we wouldn't be house poor.

 

Fast forward to November when he initiated a break up. He said that he has had two contrasting feelings going on since the summer. He wasn't sure that we were connecting and/or if he was in love with me while and at the same time, he felt the need to build a life together...

 

NC for 10 days. He's swirled into depression ... confused, mixed-up, broken and doesn't want to drag me down.

 

I want to help him but know that I can't play the rescuer.

 

What happened?

[LarsWB]

Difficult to figure out where he's at or what he's feeling...even for him. The BEST thing you can do right now is give him the space, and time, to work through his feelings...alone. Let him come to you when he's ready to talk. Good luck to you.