forgiveness..

[phasegirl]

if you and a friend (just a friend) have an argument or disagreement of some sort, and feelings are hurt (just verbal stuff, nothing that happened like cheating, backstabbing, etc) - and the person says that they forgive you, but walks away and decides never to speak to you again - is that really forgiveness?

 

thoughts?

[The_Seeker]

if you and a friend have an argument or disagreement of some sort, and feelings are hurt (just verbal stuff, nothing that happened like cheating, backstabbing, etc) - and the person says that they forgive you, but walks away and decides never to speak to you again - is that really forgiveness?

 

thoughts?

 

Yes and No.

 

Yes, because the person is letting go of the act you did.

 

No, because the person is letting go of you and friendship/relationship.

 

Your definition of forgiveness is Pure Forgiveness. You're looking for forgiveness where someone forgives you and keeps you in their life.

[ForumGuy]

They forgive, but don't forget. In time, the forgetting part may come.

[alli]

Doesn't seem like they have totally forgiven you. Maybe they want to, and maybe they want you too feel better by saying they forgive you, but if they are still hurt, they can't force feelings that aren't there & you can't really force it either.

[catfeeder]

Sure, forgiveness doesn't have conditions on it. Some people are best loved from far away. You can still care for someone even after experience has taught you that you don't want to interact with them anymore.

[Jd1983]

They can forgive what you did, and let it go, but that doesn't necessarily mean that they have to continue talking to you.

 

I think it's best to take some time apart so both parties can cool down.

[3boys]

It all depends on what your definition of forgiveness is. IMO, I would say that "no", if they never speak to you again, that's not "true" forgiveness, it's nothing more than lip service...