I think that my GF is a fake.

[menime8elim]

I have a girlfriend that I have been together for almost 6 months and I have known her for almost a year. Im only 16 but I "like"(I have a thing about saying love) her a lot but I have problems with her being too friendly with other guys. In particular a guy thats on my football team. We both like her(in fact most of my friend like her) but she liked me and not the other guy. At first when we all hang out she flirted with everyone but after we started going out she has paid less attention to me and more attention to the other guy. Ever time we hang out together she flirts w/ the other guy and it pissed the hell out of me but I dosen't want to tell her because I like her too much. She told me that ppl say she flirts with other ppl. She also told me that she doesn't do it on perpous; "it just happens". She told me all this after I told her that I was experiancing jealousy. I never told her who im jealous of but she knows its the guy that she flirts with the most. This didn't bother me that much and I was trying to forget it until I cought her in a lie. One night when we were out on a date; her cell phone rang and I saw the name . It was the guy she flirts with(he had called her at least 4 ties cuz thats how many times I saw his name) and the guy she told me she doesn't talk to anymore since school is out. When I asked her who it was she made up a story about her friend calling her from camp. I asked her who the friend was and she game me a name that was not on her cell. The reason she didn't tell me the truth is bec. she knows im a jealous bf and because she thought that I didn;t see the name. Another thing is that if I ever get to the point to tell her that I love her it will mess everything up because I still have doubts about her and the guy. Please tell me what i need to do to fix this.

[Diet Grrl]

I'm not sure there's much you can do about this. Maybe she just talks to these other guys? It doesn't mean she's cheating on you. And it's practically impossible to like only one person at one time. I'm sure she likes you alot because if she didn't she wouldn't have gone out with you for so long, right? For most people, flirting is just something you do unconsciously. I don't think you have much to worry about...

[wing wha]

she is wrong . i say if you have a girl friend she is yours. if you have some annoying flirting girl as a girl friend who is she. If this happens why deal with it. flirting dosent come naturally. i mean there alot of girls who would love just to date with anyone no matter what. they would make good girl friends. not some girl that uses you. get in with a shy girl they are nice and will stick with you gifve them a chance trust me.

[Celadon]

By lying to you, she's disrespecting you. You need to talk with her about it and tell her you want to have an honest, trusting relationship. Sounds like you guys aren't talking about what you're really feeling, but you need to, because that's part of having a relationship.

 

The whole thing about "it just happens" is shallow, imho. Anyone can realize that they're doing something -- especially after it's been brought to their attention. Yeah, sometimes learning how to change will take practice, but it's not like invisible force is *making* her do anything.

 

So, when you talk with her, be firm, but don't yell at her or anything. Also, if you have some ideas on how you two can have a better relationship, tell her about that. Don't just blame her, or you might get nowhere. Good luck.

[Serendipity1607307077]

I used to flirt a lot before I got together with my boyfriend of six months. I stopped immediately when we were together (apart from flirting with him, of course!).

 

I think that she might be a fake... either try talking to her again, or find someone better...

Or try a bit of reverse psychology.. flirt with other women and see what she says..

[slc333]

I say get rid of her. Who needs someone that is going to lie to you and disrespect you by flirting all the time. She sounds like she is not interested in a serious relationship if you ask me. If I were you, I'd move on. It won't be easy at first, but you'll find someone else better. Someone that does not disrespect you by flirting in front of you. And someone that does not lie. You probably deserve better.