speak Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 It's insane! I liked a guy online, talked to him a month/two ago and he just ended up with no interest. I tried to reunite with a friend from high school and he never returns my texts. I started a new job and I REALLY like this guy there and.. come to find - he's got a girlfriend!! Why am I such a loser? Am I not pretty enough? Intriguing enough? I just dont get it. Am I really just a loser? I always thought I was cute, had a sweet smile, and was sweet with people. What is wrong with me? ? ? Link to comment
Kinkz Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 How old are you? I don't think it makes you a loser if the guy you like is taken by someone else. If your friends aenot returning your calls then it makes them losers not you. Link to comment
speak Posted June 16, 2010 Author Share Posted June 16, 2010 I am 21. Just turned that this past friday...i feel so bad about myself. I want to have someone that I can share days with and tell them everything. Link to comment
Kinkz Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 Happy Belated Birthday. Hmm so you're not a teenager having a teenage moment. I think you will get someone once you start being more happy about yourself, i don't know how but guys have a radar pulling them towards confident people. So try working on that. As for sharing things and telling everything...you can start an online journal thing. It helps to write things out. Link to comment
aesop921 Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 Commonly recycled advice (yet effective sometimes): Go do something with new people. Take a class, volunteer, join a club. Hardest part is picking up the phone/driving to the place to set something up. Link to comment
Gath Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 Commonly recycled advice (yet effective sometimes): Go do something with new people. Take a class, volunteer, join a club. Hardest part is picking up the phone/driving to the place to set something up. Going to the gym is also a great idea, exercise makes for good endorphins. Just watch out, lotta guys there are players. Link to comment
speak Posted June 16, 2010 Author Share Posted June 16, 2010 Going to the gym is also a great idea, exercise makes for good endorphins. Just watch out, lotta guys there are players. Happy Belated Birthday. Hmm so you're not a teenager having a teenage moment. I think you will get someone once you start being more happy about yourself, i don't know how but guys have a radar pulling them towards confident people. So try working on that. As for sharing things and telling everything...you can start an online journal thing. It helps to write things out. Nope. no teenage moments...I guess now I am a WOMAN. Though, I still feel SO young! Which I am but anyhow! I just lost my father a month ago. My mommy passed away when I was twelve, I just really need and want someone. I am overall happy. Always smiles. I just crave someone Link to comment
Kinkz Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 Yeh its tough when it feels like you're all alone in the world, don't confuse your feelings of breavement/greif with a wanting of intimacy, it could lead to trouble and more confusion if the relationship doesn't work out. Do your friends know about your father? Hmm they should be putting a bit more effort in spending time with you. Yeh you are still young and trust me there will be plenty of time for relationships and what not, right now you need to stay strong tho and be confident about yourself. The right guy will come along when the time is right, these things happen by themself. Link to comment
speak Posted June 16, 2010 Author Share Posted June 16, 2010 Yeh its tough when it feels like you're all alone in the world, don't confuse your feelings of breavement/greif with a wanting of intimacy, it could lead to trouble and more confusion if the relationship doesn't work out. Do your friends know about your father? Hmm they should be putting a bit more effort in spending time with you. Yeh you are still young and trust me there will be plenty of time for relationships and what not, right now you need to stay strong tho and be confident about yourself. The right guy will come along when the time is right, these things happen by themself. True. It just seems it will never happen Link to comment
Kinkz Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 Try to get busy in other things, like your job, watching some good movies, reading..hanging out with new people etc Eventually you won't think about it too much and then out of nowhere it will happen. Like sometimes if you think about something too much, you kind of get obsessed with it and it starts controlling you. Link to comment
evandang00 Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 " im the master of my fate, im the captain of my soul "- invictus Link to comment
MD Geist Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 ^^^ Very true. Your feeling very alone right now and its almost natural to want to have someone in your life. Even with family and friends I feel like I'm the only one who cares about me, conditional love is not true love. Id say get your life back in order what I mean that is get over what happened with your father, that happened over a month ago which is very recent and that is not an easy thing to pick up and move on with, take your time your a woman your designed to attract!. Continue to take care of yourself and get things in your life organized. Meanwhile go out and meet people, make new friends, be focused on that for awhile. Link to comment
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