Radeon Posted May 18, 2010 Share Posted May 18, 2010 I already know what everyone's going to say, but I guess I just want to post to get it out of my system. A little background info, gonna try making it short: My ex-girlfriend and I met over the internet in 2007. We met on an online forum where she was posting nude photos of herself for men to see. I had no intention of dating her when we started talking, I actually just started talking to her as a joke, and to find out what kind of person she was. I don't really know what happened, but over the course of 6 months we both started having strong feelings for each other, and met 11 months after first contact. A year after meeting and doing long distance visits every month, we moved in together. She left her home country to move with me in September '09, and that's when things got sour. She didn't really like where I lived, and I was willing to give up everything here (family business, trust fund) to move back to the US with her. She visited home every 2-3 months since getting here, and eventually decided to stay back at home the last time, March. At this point we were still talking about moving back to the US. It was a matter of when, instead of "if." She went home and became very distant. Usually when we were long distance we'd check in at least twice a day via phone, IM, or email. There was none of this this time. Every time we communicated, I initiated it. We'd go 3-4 days without talking, while she went out and got drunk every night. We talked about me moving back to the US. We talked about getting married. We mutually agreed to get married as soon as possible. These things continued for a month and a half, and eventually when I expressed my concerns about the relationship, she freaked out and broke up with me last week Sunday. Her reasoning was that she needed space to find happiness within herself. I believed her for a while. She was trying to get her life back on track at home, getting a new job, move out of her parent's house, etc. I understood that it could be overwhelming to deal with a relationship as well. My heart was broken but i understood. I gave her as much space as possible. I went NC for about 3 days until she broke it, and I caved. There's been a lot of me replying to her texts and her ignoring mine. She put me limited profile on FB but kept us as friends (i couldn't even see her status updates or friends), and blocked me AIM, and MSN the day after she dumped me. She changed all of her passwords as well. Last night we talked to each other for a few hours on the phone, just to clear things up. She told me that she still loved me, and that she was so confused about whether she was doing the right thing. She said that she saw a future with me, but couldn't be in a relationship at this point in time. It was very emotional from both parties, and I feel like it gave me a sense of hope that I now realize was fake. I was staying away from posting, but here's the red flag. She told me she wanted a break to find happiness within herself, but when I asked her about moving on, she told me that she's been talking to other men, and has been asked out on a few dates that she declined. She said there's been nothing physical, and that she doesn't actually want to date, but she feels like its what she's supposed to do. I'm wondering if she's doing it to make me jealous, or if she's seriously trying to date. I can assume that she's just a lost, immature person and that she doesn't know what she wants, or I can assume that she just wants to keep me in limbo for whenever she's done playing the field. What's up eNA, what do you guys think? Link to comment
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