lovexo Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 I am so hurt nd feel so rejected lately. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years now. We have an amazing relationship, he is my bestfriend, we have fun together, supportive of one another..yes we have our ups and downs..but all in all we have a great relationship. WE also live together for the past 1 and half. He is 26 and i am 25. The only problem..which is a big one for me, is our sex life. I have a very high sex drive, and he has NONE. I used to try to ineiate sex all the time, and i would just get rejected ( not in the mood, not the right time, headache, tired..etc., different excuse everytime) It hurts soo much. He says that he is attracted to me, and it has nothing to do with me..but how can i believe that. He does have a drug problem...which i know lowers your sex drive...but come one... We have been together for 2 years, living together, and probaly only had sex 10 times. and when we do its just boring sex. I WAS the type to be down for anything. He actually has never even "gone down". He says its not me all time time, but that doesn't stop me from being extremely hurt. He isn't expereienced..he has been with one other girl..once in his life. He is very shy, and has low self esteem to begin with. But he knows how much i love him, and how attracted i am to him. he just doesnt think that sex is anything in a relationship, that it is the last thing that is importent. To me sex is very important in a relationship. To feel close, to have that bond..to feel connected. I can't even initate it anymore, for fear of being rejected. he makes me feel ugly, worthless..and now i have extremely low self esteem. And by the way, im not conceited, but i am a very good looking girl. I just dont know what to do anymore. I love him soo much, and he have a wonderful relationship..but im holding so much resentment, anger and hurt. by him telling me to respect how he feels, and not to pressure him...at the same time by doing that, he is ignoring and not respect how i feel. I have had soooo many sit down talks with him, blow out fights with him. He knows how i feel. I even sat him down and asked him to compromise...saying.."well if your not in the mood, then you can always help me out..and not be selfish. But nothing. As of right now its been over 2 months of any sort of sexual anything...and before that it was MAYBE once a month. I just dont know what to do anymore, i am DESPRETE for some help or advice!!!!!!! I honestly only want advice on the sex thing, because the drug thing idont want to get into and that would be a completely different thread. What should i do??? I cant leave him over sex, can i ? He is everything i want out of a guy..but notthis. I need someone to make me feel beautiful. Nothing hurts more that the man you love having no sexual desire for you, and if i say that to him...he 'gets soooo defensive and tells me he does have desire for me..and he says "everyone is different, not everyone wants sex all the time..relationships are a lot more than sex, blah blah blah" he makes me feel like a freak tnt i want sex all the time...but i just want it at least once in a while!!! he makes me feel like somethings wrong with me. What should i doo....am i soooooo lost!!!!!!!!! and hurt! Link to comment
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