thathoopla Posted May 5, 2010 Share Posted May 5, 2010 Ok I know I've posted this before I am very scared of my ex-bf and of what he'll do. There wasn't any real physical violence but lots of name calling and threats. He hasn't acted on any physical threats but he has in the past acted one one type of threat: telling me he will call my house if I don't do what he says or just because he hates me. 1. I cannot have him call my home because my parents will KILL me. This issue is NUMBER one. I cannot talk to my parents about this. I cannot have them find out in ANY way. 2. Yes I'm stupid enough to talk to him again and I screwed up by pissing him off when he said something about being with some other girl. I got sad and cried (we were on msn) and he got pissed off. Then I texted him later saying "I am sorry for wasting your time. peace." After that he flipped and said things like he will call my house, he will kill me, ruin my life, etc. etc. So I said sorry again and he still kept saying the same things but hasn't texted back for a while. I hope he just went to cool down. 3. This stuff has been happening since last late summer/fall and it's been getting worse and worse. 4. I'm not actually thinking he will come and hurt me/kill me, because he is just really mad and saying those things. However he has called my home many times before and there's just no way to stop him if he does. Lastly I just want to make it clear I can't do anything that would get family involved. If they do, I will be 100x worse off than he could ever be. I'd get kicked out of my house or have to deal with a lot of drama/lecturing/limited priveleges for a long time. I've dealt with it before in 2008 and my life was hell for a year. I cannot have my family know about this so please please help me find options on what to do BESIDES that. I can't for e.g. block his # on my home phone because my parents will find out. Can't go to the police because my parents would find out. Btw I know he reads some of my posts on ENA, this is confirmed. But I have NO idea where else to ask this. I called 2 distress lines worried and I got nothing new from them. One girl just told me to ignore him (which I've done before but then if I don't talk to him for several days, sometimes he comes back and tells me to talk to him again or else he'll call my house). Another woman told me that I have to call the police cause my life is in danger. I know my life is not in danger. I read this book by Gavin de Becker talking about this sort of behaviour. And I am not afraid nor am I thinking he would physically hurt me. I just want him to stop threatening and involving my family in it I have noone else to talk to about this so I'm on the site.. Link to comment
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