Millshanks Posted May 4, 2010 Share Posted May 4, 2010 Okay, I'm new here so any advice will be very much appreciated. So my girlfriend and I have been dating for 4 months now. She works at a fast food place atm, obviously there are regular customers who come in and chat. Recently one of these guys who she has known for a some time (more a customer than a friend) asked her out for coffee. She said "no, it wouldn't be right as I have a boyfriend", he backed off and said he didnt want to be friends if it caused trouble for her and I. Which is fair enough, I trust her not to cheat on me. Anyway this guy ends up asking for her phone number at some point, add each other on facebook. He is contacting her more than me about random things... all the time I'm left asking what is this bloke playing at. Obviously this new 'friendship' does not have my blessing, I never accused her of cheating on me I just think its inappropriate given that clearly he wants to be more than friends. I dont want to be the guy saying she can't be friends with this or that person but given the circumstance. I think I am right be weirded out by it all. Basically I made a huge fuss out it all and ended up messaging him telling him to stop hitting on my girlfriend. I should not have done this, its for her to sort out. I feel bad for threatening the guy and I did appologise to her and to him for it; however this whole thing just didnt add up to me. I don't trust his motive, its not as if they are great old friends catching up, she says she has no intention of meeting him. So why the constant contact, I feel she may be leading him on in some way without realising it, cause he's sure putting a lot of effort into this. I know I have over reacted by threatening the guy but do you think this is a fairly normal for me to be asking questions given the context?? I wouldn't care if they spoke occasionally online but the constant messaging about nothing in particular... friendship, over what? the fact he wanted to take her out? I love her and I don't want to break up with her over something so stupid but I dont think I should be made to feel like the bad guy. Honest opinions people? Do you think I am completely in the wrong? Cheers. Link to comment
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