CoCo2009 Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 I went out with a guy a week ago and he hasnt made plans with me sense...keeps texting me making conversation but he won't ask me out again. He hinted that on our first date that he thought I wasn't interested in him and I reassured him that I was.... I'm officially annoyed, I'm not trying to be anyones chat/texting buddy. I asked him out on a date this past weekend and he said he couldn't make it because he was busy but proceeded to basically text me all that night..? Youre busy but your texting me all night? Then yesterday he texted me asking me what I was doing and I told him I was eating, he said he wished I would have invited him over. Its stupid of him to say that because I told him I'm not ready to have him over my place but I am open to going out on a date with him again. He keeps texting me hinting at dates but he never asks. I decided that I was going to ignore him but I feel bad just ignoring him. What would you do? What do you think? thanks in advance. Link to comment
brazilgirl21 Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 I would let go. If a guy likes you, he will ask you out on a date. CoCo - I'm sorry you keep getting burned/played by guys. I'm on the same boat hun =[ Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted March 10, 2010 Author Share Posted March 10, 2010 But that wasn't my question, I'm basically asking how do I do this tell him to leave me alone? I don't know how to communicate it without being rude or sounding mean. I already know I'm not going to find a good guy, I'm just going to be alone for the rest of my life most likely...I guess i'm coming to terms with that. Link to comment
brazilgirl21 Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 CoCo - Same here! I've honestly giving up and not even sad about it anymore. I'd say just stop replying to his texts! Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 I dont think that you can communicate that you want to be left along without being stern, rude or mean. Tell him just want you said here you arent interested in having him as a chat text buddy. However, I suspect that when you let him know that you wont be inviting him over or sleeping with him that he will lose interest. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted March 10, 2010 Author Share Posted March 10, 2010 I freaking hate my life. Link to comment
DylanNotorious Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 Yeah just tell him your not interested. Too bad if it sounds mean, he's mucking you around. We don't always have to be nice to people especially since you are keen to date him, and he's just wasting your time! Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted March 10, 2010 Author Share Posted March 10, 2010 Im just going to ignore him...thanks guys Link to comment
brazilgirl21 Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 CoCo - Don't hate your life... I mean, life is a b*tch and then we die.. must as well enjoy it. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted March 10, 2010 Author Share Posted March 10, 2010 I know I'm just frustrated, fed up and tired of all this bs. Link to comment
veda999 Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 I know I'm just frustrated, fed up and tired of all this bs. someone will come along, hang in there . . . it's a numbers game. Link to comment
Ammy Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 Did he seem like the type who was only after one thing? I just wonder from his text to you whether he was joking as in "haha, you shoulda invited me for food/dinner"... as a joke rather than a real suggestion that he wants to come to your place? Anyway in response to your question - if you want him to leave you alone - just stop replying. Oh and I can totally empathise with your struggle... I go through it time and again too... Hopefully one day it will work out for all of us!! Ammy Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted March 10, 2010 Author Share Posted March 10, 2010 Did he seem like the type who was only after one thing? I just wonder from his text to you whether he was joking as in "haha, you shoulda invited me for food/dinner"... as a joke rather than a real suggestion that he wants to come to your place? Anyway in response to your question - if you want him to leave you alone - just stop replying. Oh and I can totally empathise with your struggle... I go through it time and again too... Hopefully one day it will work out for all of us!! Ammy no he actually seems far from it, he texted me a couple of mins ago and I'm just ignoring it foreal now, Im over this whole game he's playing Link to comment
Ammy Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 no he actually seems far from it, he texted me a couple of mins ago and I'm just ignoring it foreal now, Im over this whole game he's playing What did the text say? Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted March 10, 2010 Author Share Posted March 10, 2010 What did the text say? How was your day today Link to comment
Ammy Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 Honestly Coco, if you like this guy and want to see him again, you could just be upfront like someone above said and say something along the lines of enjoying chatting, but that you're looking to date not for a chat / text buddy and if he's keen to meet up in the future to let you know. You have nothing to lose? Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted March 10, 2010 Author Share Posted March 10, 2010 I just texted him asking "are you looking for more of a friend to chat with or are you looking to date because I'm a little confused right now lol" Oh well what is there to lose you know? Atleast I will get a straight up answer. Link to comment
brazilgirl21 Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 CoCo - That was a GREAT text! You go girl! Link to comment
Ammy Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 I just texted him asking "are you looking for more of a friend to chat with or are you looking to date because I'm a little confused right now lol" Oh well what is there to lose you know? Atleast I will get a straight up answer. GOOD!! Perfect response.. It's proactive and forward without appearing needy or desperate!! Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted March 10, 2010 Author Share Posted March 10, 2010 CoCo - That was a GREAT text! You go girl! really? I feel so stupid now that I sent it. hahahahaha Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted March 10, 2010 Author Share Posted March 10, 2010 Oh my god! He just texted me back "I don't know what do you want?..I have enough friends" What in the world is going on with this guy? Link to comment
hers Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 Oh my god! He just texted me back "I don't know what do you want?..I have enough friends" What in the world is going on with this guy? why don't you ask him if he's looking to date you or anythign else. be straight up. Link to comment
brazilgirl21 Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 CoCo - Ok, it seems like he obviously likes you. The thing is, words are cheap! You have to see if he is going to act on those words!! Link to comment
Ammy Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 Oh my god! He just texted me back "I don't know what do you want?..I have enough friends" What in the world is going on with this guy? Text him what you want - ie. "I am looking to date people at this stage. If you're interested then contact me when you'd like to go out." Link to comment
DylanNotorious Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 Dump him immediatley. He finds this to be a joke, yet he's the clown.......... Link to comment
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