Waiting Around

[kat4]

my boyfriend and i have recently got into a fight and have broken up. we are still talking texting haveing normal phone calls and hangingout but just not together. he told me that he feels like their isnt a two way road between us and that i have to show him the two way road before anything can happen. I can understand to some extent tthe two way road not being their but to others no. Now i dont really have any idea how to show him the two way road. so he is waiing around until that happens. he want to be with me and i want to be with him i just have to show him the two way road. how do i do that when i thought it was there before

[anggrace]

Have you asked him to be more specific? It's hard to guess exactly what that means. My guess is that he either wants you to make more of an effort (in which area I don't know) or to be less selfish. Did he say more than this?

[kat4]

he said that all he ever wanted to do was make me happy and that certian things i do seems like i have plans of ways just to do things to hurt him like recently we were suppose to visit his college he wanted to show me it and maybe i would like it. well he also had stuf he had to do there that day which i was unaware of. i told him i couldnt go because i had to right an essay to help my getting into my top college he understood and was still a little upset then later on the day we were suppose to go i got that feeling like i had to go maybe this was the place i was suppose to be going. so i told my mom and dad and they said lets go visit. I didnt ask my boyfriends to come with us because i was afraid he would say no way you didnt want to go with me this morning when he was already mad. so i didnt invite him but told him i was going to not lie. this was one of those things that was like i had plans to do something * * * * ed up to him. so he felt that there was no two way road and he doesnt get it back when i feel he does just not as much as he does for me

[DylanNotorious]

What does two roads mean? All it sounds like to me, is that your boyfriend gets mad when you can't make up your mind about stuff. Is this correct?

[kat4]

like treat him how he treats me. thats what he means

[kat4]

thats at least how i understood it like treat him the best that i can and he think that my random acts that he views as horrible towards him a non two way road.

[DylanNotorious]

Your only human and you won't be able to please him all the time (no-one is perfect). He's holding you to a ridiculously high standard that you will never meet. If you know in your heart that you are treating him the best way you know how, then it is him that has the problem and not you. Always believe in yourself.

[kat4]

you were right ridiculous high standards are impossible. you cant achieve something that is physically impossible especially when its two people in a relationship nd only one wants to compromise