DN Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 This girl has issues that she needs professional help to get past - and catering to her will not serve either of you. There is more to this than just the drinking as she seems to have a need to control and shape you to her liking. And even if you gave in she would continue to find new things to change. But to address the drinking issue - her problem with her alcoholic father is her problem but she is attempting to address it by making you change your life rather than in dealing with her issue herself. That won't work her problems will still be there only they will be masked by you abstaining - essentially you become an 'enabler' which is somewhat ironic because it is usually an enabler who is in denial about an alcoholic. Bottom line - don't change because of her issues. She needs to deal with them herself. Link to comment
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