highonyou Posted November 16, 2009 Share Posted November 16, 2009 In the last 48 hours I think I became a dirty mistress. My friend and I have been sleeping together now again during the last year but didn't want to be with me which I came to accept. A little over a month ago he started seeing a nice girl, the do so much together and everyone, including me, was very happy to see he may have really found someone. I've been so busy the last couple of weeks that my social life has been on the back burner but saturday night he came round with a few drinks and a catch up as plans for all our friends to meet up for drinks fell through. We got a bit drunk and ended up in bed. He was lovely in the morning as usual, we snuggled and talked etc, not exactly the kind of behaviour I would expect from someone who just cheated, right? I wish I had asked he was still with her or not, I hate the idea that he may have cheated and that I am the other woman. Link to comment
celiaroae100 Posted November 16, 2009 Share Posted November 16, 2009 ask him? and maybe tell him how uncomfortable you are being the other woemn and dont want it to happen again while he is with someone else Link to comment
ohemgee Posted November 16, 2009 Share Posted November 16, 2009 You knew without asking he was with her which is why you're feeling bad... He never said he wasn't with her...And you slept with him...He never told you after that he was with her...so now and only now, after the fact, do you realize you "might unknowlingly" have been a mistress. I don't buy this... Link to comment
KG Posted November 16, 2009 Share Posted November 16, 2009 Mistakes happen, esp. with booze. Just don't repeat it, and you're fine. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted November 16, 2009 Share Posted November 16, 2009 You knew without asking he was with her which is why you're feeling bad... He never said he wasn't with her...And you slept with him...He never told you after that he was with her...so now and only now, after the fact, do you realize you "might unknowlingly" have been a mistress. I don't buy this... I agree. You already knew he had a girlfriend so you should never have slept with him. Link to comment
Sanesoul Posted November 16, 2009 Share Posted November 16, 2009 This is what happens when people do before they think. Now you are feeling guilty about something that should never have happened. Link to comment
KG Posted November 16, 2009 Share Posted November 16, 2009 This is what happens when people do before they think. Now you are feeling guilty about something that should never have happened. I think she could use some support... Link to comment
lady00 Posted November 16, 2009 Share Posted November 16, 2009 I think you should simply ask him. If he is in a relationship then it's important information for you to have, as you two have history and you don't want to end up in the same situation again. Of course, he could lie to you, but that's a whole other issue. Link to comment
Sanesoul Posted November 16, 2009 Share Posted November 16, 2009 I think she could use some support... People post on here to get people's opinions. That was my opinion. I'm not real good at sugar coating. Link to comment
ohemgee Posted November 16, 2009 Share Posted November 16, 2009 I think she could use some support... Perhaps owning up to the consequences of actions is more important. I dont think support is what people really need all the time. Support is often abused when the abuser never learns anything from their actions because everyone is trying to play the sensitive sally. Ignoring the sugar-coated confessions geared soley to get advice that they wanna hear and receive. Not neccesarily advice thats healthy. Link to comment
celiaroae100 Posted November 16, 2009 Share Posted November 16, 2009 I have to say some of the harshest advice i have got in the past has been the most beneficial, tough love and all that Link to comment
sunshine1 Posted November 16, 2009 Share Posted November 16, 2009 Perhaps owning up to the consequences of actions is more important. I dont think support is what people really need all the time. Support is often abused when the abuser never learns anything from their actions because everyone is trying to play the sensitive sally. Ignoring the sugar-coated confessions geared soley to get advice that they wanna hear and receive. Not neccesarily advice thats healthy. I agree 1000% Link to comment
highonyou Posted November 17, 2009 Author Share Posted November 17, 2009 yeah I was an idiot, I wholeheartedly agree. Note to self, MUST NOT be left alone with him especially when there is acohol Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 yeah I was an idiot, I wholeheartedly agree. Note to self, MUST NOT be left alone with him especially when there is acohol Also, Note to self..."He has a girlfriend, and I DO know this." Link to comment
highonyou Posted November 17, 2009 Author Share Posted November 17, 2009 well I don't actually know about the girlfriend part, our group of friends have not seen each other in a while and had a big catch up Link to comment
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